Standing in the Space of Upset
One of the most challenging places to stand as a coach is in the space of upset. In that moment, when there is a need to take an unpopular position to cause a breakthrough for a client, I run the risk of losing the client because of the stand. Why, as a coach, would I put myself in that position? Because I believe that significant growth comes out of our most difficult moments and my job is to cause movement in areas of my client’s lives where historically there has never been movement before.
When I’m standing in the space of upset it’s never without pre-thought around “will it make a difference?”
and “am I prepared for the consequences of taking a strong stand?” The answers to those questions are very clear for me before I take that stand.
“Will it make a difference?” As I mentioned before I do believe we gain significant growth out of adverse situations and there are times when my clients don’t like me for what I have to say. I have been told that being a coach is not a popularity contest and through my experiences I can say this is true. I know being the coach they liked would make me feel great and it doesn’t serve my clients needs. In order to be an effective coach it has to be about the client and I want to make a difference in lives of my clients. As an effective coach clients get what they came for and comfortably share my services with others.
“Am I prepared for the consequences of taking a strong stand?”
The answer is always YES because I am determined to cause movement in the lives of my clients so they will have results they could only imagine as possible before they started working with me as their coach. Otherwise why would they hire me? There are plenty of self-help books
, videos, webinars and seminars available with all the same information I share and lots of opportunity to do what needs to be done without my help so why would client’s hire me? Because I understand what it’s like to stand in
their shoes, I know what’s coming and I’m prepared to go to the end of the earth for my clients even if it means making them dislike me in the process. I am a stand for my clients to finally have movement in areas of their lives where historically no movement has come before.
Thank goodness there is more to being a coach than taking difficult stands and thank goodness clients can count on me for having the skills to take those difficult stands. I have spent many years watching a variety of coaches and pulled from each one, something of value to add to my skill set. I believe they have all contributed to making me a better coach for others and for this I am grateful.
Personal Lifestyle Coach services are provided by LD Williams. Times/dates/fees are arranged as per client’s needs and agreed upon before coaching services begin. LD Williams has been providing advice and coaching services for over 20 yrs to men and women across North America. Her services are non-medical in nature and based on her personal life experiences.