Asking a man or a woman out on a date can be incredibly nerve-racking don’t you think? In the old days, you would see him/her across a crowded room and after a stiff drink you would walk over to him/her and say hello and the rest, they say, is history. Today, many people are using an online dating service to meet potential partners and although it’s easier to say hello, I believe it’s much harder to get her to say yes to a date! I know because I have been experimenting with online dating services to see what it’s like from a woman’s perspective. I can sum my experience up in one word. YIKES!
In my experience, I was inundated with winks, smiles, inquiries, hellos, and a few “howyadoin’s” and that was within the first half-hour of signing up! From there it just got more interesting, the invites were coming from every age group, both genders, and some very interesting prospects. I felt like I just landed in a bees nest and the swarm was on me! What amazed me was the response they gave me when I politely said “no thank you”, the rejection, even a thoughtful one, was more than they could handle and I could see why. It was through this experience that I truly understood what was happening for them and my inspiration for writing this blog.
Regarding my online dating experience, my first impression of the profiles I saw was, I was not interested in going out on a date with many of these people! Between the pics they posted and profiles they wrote, I was left feeling less than willing to find out how wonderful they were. It did leave me wondering if I would have given the profiler more attention if they chose different words and pics? Both are so important when you have less than 15 sec to make an impression!
We are being judged by our profiles!
If your profile looks or sounds unappealing your profile will be passed over. Your viewer is not going to look any further to find out more about you. You are online, using a dating service, to find connections, create relationships, and getting it right is not as hard as you think. Your words and pics can make a difference and will influence what happens next with your online dating experience.
I am a firm believer in finding love and connection is possible online! I believe there is someone for everyone in the world and portraying yourself authentically and with clarity will reach the heart of the person you’d like to connect with.
People appear to have this false sense of confidence when using online dating services and their confidence takes a serious beating when someone rejects their invitation. Rejection is exactly how it feels to someone who has low self-esteem or struggles with confidence. I know because there was a day I stood in their shoes. There was a time in my life where my low self-esteem and lack of confidence controlled my life and stopped me from having things in my life I wished for. I can relate to how these people felt when I said “no” to them. It’s because of this that I am able to work with people building their self-esteem and confidence and what allows me to make a difference in their lives. I changed my level of confidence and self-esteem through coaching and self-discovery and now I’m ready to help others do the same.
What does it take? The answer to this question is unique for all of us and comes from within. With some gentle guidance, I can help you discover yours. I am here to help you discover your answers, create a clear message based on your values, and portray yourself authentically through your online profile. When you get this right you will connect that special person and say “Yes, I’d love to meet you!”