I originally wrote this piece back in 2014, updated it again in 2015, and re-read it recently only to find that I’m not following my own advice here! I am hearing myself say “I don’t have time for (you name it I’ve said it). My first reaction was to start chastising myself for not practicing what I preach and then it occurred to me that perhaps there was a better way to bring this back into my daily awareness! When I look back I can see there were times I put this into practice and what my process was to do that. Looking closer at that process I started to see the steps I took to shift my way of being and get back on track with what’s important to me.
What is important to me?
To live my life every day with joy, to love my friends and family unconditionally, and to work with passion and purpose making a difference for others.
I can see that I am not always in alignment with these words and I need a reset moment to get me back on track! A reset moment? What does that look like? It’s a moment where I take a time out, step back to have a better overall view of where I am right now, review my priorities, make changes as needed and get back into the game with an action plan in hand! This is not a one-time-only exercise and realizing this fact has made it possible for me to get back on track faster and stay longer.
What would you change in your life if you had a transformational reset moment when you felt off track? Perhaps some of these examples are areas for a reset in your life:
reconnect with people in your life you have lost touch with
refocus your attention at work or home to bring back the pleasure in those areas
reset your goals in life because the path you are on isn’t working for you
It sounds funny to ask for permission to take time and that’s exactly what you must do when you are creating moments in your life. We have all said, at some point in our lives, “I can’t afford to take the time” and “I should be doing something else, not wasting time doing this”. We often do not give ourselves permission to be in the moment doing things that we like to do and it is impossible to be in the moment without it.
I started this conversation talking about creating time and being in the moment. This post is part of that conversation because giving yourself permission to use your newly created time is a key element along with being in the moment and commitment to clarity. Giving yourself permission takes awareness and practice AND, so I have discovered, it is quite rewarding when you do. What kind of rewards can you expect? It varies, from tangible rewards like lovely gifts and intangible rewards like kind and thoughtful words shared by others.
Often we use one of many excuses as to why we don’t have time.
“I have too many things to do right now, I’ll do it later”
“If I stop now I’ll never catch up”
“I’ll have plenty of time to do (stuff) when I’m older (retired)”
Which one have do you use? We typically make the mistake of thinking our time is not our own when actually, it is. Yes, we have our commitments, responsibilities, expectations and it’s up to us to make time for these and what we want in life. I know, I know, easier said than done, I agree and I still say it’s possible when you make a commitment to yourself to follow through with whatever it takes to make it happen. It starts with…
Giving yourself permission to take the time AND believing that it is possible.
From this point on every step forward is a good one whether it’s a giant leap or a baby step. The question is “what would you be doing right now if you had the time?” Pick something and make a commitment to yourself to do it. If you can’t do it right now, pick a day and time within the next 7 days to just do it! Make it happen! I would love to hear how it went for you and what your experience was if you are game to share.
It’s your time, take it!