I have been known to say “knowing doesn’t make a difference” when talking about what to do when making changes in my life. For example, I would say “I want to lose weight”, I know there are countless ways to lose weight and I’m not using any of them! It feels like every day that someone is sharing their weight loss method that worked for them and if I used it I would lose weight too! Yes, I believe this is true and knowing doesn’t make a difference!
I could lose weight (I don’t have any medical reason why I can’t) and I choose not too. Why? Because there is something else at play here that lives deep within my sub-conscious that stops me and until I find it nothing will work. Anytime I feel blocked or held back in my life the culprit is a limiting belief I hold in my sub-conscious mind.
When you consider that we have thousands of thoughts coursing through our brains every minute and the challenging part is we are unaware of most of them. Is it possible that there are limiting beliefs among those thoughts that are mucking up our lives? As I read the “The Biology of Belief” by Dr. Bruce Lipton I have learned more about the existence of these beliefs and how they influence my actions and inactions.
Knowing this DOES make a difference!
Eureka, I have found a piece of life’s puzzle that was missing! Now I have what I need to change the list of beliefs I have been listening to most of my life, rewriting them in a way that empowers me. Is it possible to change the words in my belief statements and create new believable belief statements? Could it be this simple? The answer is YES and it’s highly effective when you go through the steps I am sharing here.
It starts with identifying the hidden belief statements by looking at your feelings and actions in a specific situation. For example, when I looked at my current financial situation I focussed on how I felt about it, how I viewed money, how I saw other people with money, how I handled money, etc. What emerged were very loud, very negative thoughts and feelings I had about money. Up till now, I wasn’t aware of most of those thoughts and feelings and for the few, I was aware of, I didn’t see them as controlling my life! This was a total eye-opener for me!
What is so cool is, I use this process in all areas of my life where I have felt stuck, stopped and out of ways to change.
Here is the step by step process I went through:
- I identified the limiting belief as I believed it to be (the negative statement I heard in my mind)
- I reworded the old belief statement into a positive one using the following criteria: state in the first person (I), use present tense (now, not future), using positive language and keeping it short and finally, make it emotionally meaningful to me (resonating)
- I effectively use these statements in meditation, emotional freedom technique and written form to remind myself that they are my truth.
It sounds simple, doesn’t it? I can assure you it wasn’t and each time I go through this process I can honestly say it is so worth the discomfort of converting old into new! When I was writing my original belief statements I was taken back as the words I wrote would cause tears to well up in my eyes. The feelings were so raw and right there! I was literally writing and crying at the same time and struggling through the process. I had flashback of specific moments in my life that were painful and confirmed why I believed these statements. I have to say I learn a few valuable lessons while going through this experience 1. the pain of living with these statements far outweighed the pain I was feeling at the moment and 2. I didn’t die going through this exercise.
I was challenged to reword these belief statements using the criteria. I found myself using words like I wish, I want, I will, none of which are present tense. I also found my statements were too long and when I read them, they sounded good but I wasn’t really connected to them. What’s really amazing to me is the completeness of all the work I went through in this process. Now, I can look at these statements and I no longer have any feelings about them. I have come back to this post on many occasions to test the process and when I read these statements it’s like they didn’t mean anything to me. I am so grateful for the tools I have learned and as new limiting beliefs expose themselves to me I put myself through this exercise with them too.
Here is a list of limiting beliefs I identified for myself, as you read this you may find yourself resonating with these particular beliefs too. Feel free to use them if you do.
- Original belief: I believe that when I ask for help no-one will be there for me
- New belief: I feel love and support from others like a warm blanket on a cold day
- Original belief: I believe that no matter what I do things will never change for me
- New belief: Every step I take changes my view of life
- Original belief: I believe that happiness is possible I just don’t know what will make me happy
- New belief: I recognize happy moments in my life every day, both big and small
- Old belief: I believe, despite multiple attempts to change it, I am not where I want to be and I will never get there
- New belief: I am exactly where I need to be and anywhere I want to go is reachable from here
When I read these words a smile has replaced the tears and the peacefulness I feel inside confirms the transformation for me. It takes little steps to transform your limiting beliefs and the promise of giant leaps is real. Yes, it does work and it can work for you too when you are ready. If you need help formulating your statements, feel free to contact me for help.
What limiting beliefs hold you back in your life?