I took on working at the far end of the coast 3 days a week for the summer in the tourist industry and I was supercharged about it. I had the pleasure of working at Ruby Lake Resort on the Sunshine Coast of BC. The job for most people would look like housekeeping but for me, it’s much more than that. I had the opportunity to make a difference in the lives of the guests staying at Ruby Lake and have a real impact on their lives because I love what I do. My game for the summer was to give each guest the experience they expect AND have them leave with more than they could have ever imagined! How I delivered this was by being playfully curious and engaging with each and every one of them. They have no idea that their stay at Ruby Lake last summer would be one they will cherish forever.
Meeting Kathleen and Chuck and Brownie
I finished work for the day and was walking through the trails to my car when Kathleen and Chuck were coming back from their day of exploring the coast. They were there looking for a place to buy to call home. Within a couple minutes of our conversation, I got a picture of what they were looking for and I knew the place that would fit them perfectly so I invited them to see it. At first, they said thank you for the thought but we don’t want to disturb you on your time off but something in my way of being made them stop and take me up on my offer to show them the property I had in mind for them. The next day we met and I walked them over the property and I smiled as I could see their mental checks at every feature. They fell in love with the property and now they are experiencing the vision of living here themselves. Yesterday morning I received a note from this couple letting me know how grateful they were for meeting me at Ruby Lake and what a difference I just made in their lives. I LOVE WHAT I DO FOR A LIVING!
Here is the comment I received from K & C
“Ruby Lake was so much fun. Norm, Lynne and You are such gems that made our trip truly rewarding. All the Very Best”. Kathleen and Chuck and Brownie
My name is Lisa and I am a life-living strategist helping men and women find what they are looking for in their lives. I have been providing advice and coaching services for over 20 yrs to men and women across North America. My services are non-medical in nature and based on my personal life experiences and the experiences of others who have gracefully allowed me to share.
“You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe.”
– Oprah Winfrey –
Your subconscious mind accepts as truth, the statements you tell yourself, it doesn’t care whether those statements are negative or positive.
So why would you choose to continually tell yourself that you are not good enough? Not smart enough? Not pretty enough? Or that you don’t deserve to be happy? How often do you hear any of these statements in your head? More than once is too often and it’s time to change this. Statements like: “I’m so stupid, I’m not worthy, nobody loves me, I can’t do this” are some of the more damaging ones and there are more! Anyone of these statements can stop you from having what you want in your life and the good news is you don’t have to listen to them anymore! First of all, none of the statements above are true.
I can hear some of you saying “they are for me” and to that, I say again, NONE OF THESE STATEMENTS ARE TRUE for anyone.
These words are a perspective, yours or someone else’s, that repeat themselves over and over in your subconscious mind, making you feel like these words are the truth. These negative statements are bogus and they were added to your life-living program that resides in your subconscious mind. At some point in your life or before (another conversation), these programmed statements, and many others, were saved in your subconscious mind’s file system causing you to operate in life as if they are true. In other words, these are limiting belief statements embedded in your subconscious mind and they are limiting your life potential. Here’s the thing, you don’t have to live with these words anymore and you can reform these statements from negative into positive ones and change the outcome of your life. Not only have other people done this successfully for themselves, but more people, like you, are also discovering that they can too.
Consider the alternative statements “I am good at what I do”, “I have all the knowledge I need” “I am beautiful, inside and out”, “I am worthy of the best that love and life have to offer” These statements are true for people who believe these words, whole-heartedly. They are the people who appear to be insanely happy all the time! You know ‘those’ people, the ones who appear to be over the top happy, living life to it’s fullest, always wearing a perma-grin on their lips. I used to think “they can’t be that happy all the time”! Well, a matter a fact, yes they can and you can be as well, if that’s your goal! The fact is our natural way of being, as a human, is to be happy, content, joyful, grateful, compassionate, caring, social, nurturing, happy, happy, happy! It’s time to be the human being you were born to be!
So, why are we so unhappy?
Our thoughts are the main reason and they are the result of what we believe about our thoughts. What we believe about ourselves, our life, and the world we live in. Every thought we have, also known as opinions and perspectives, is formed by our beliefs, both positive and negative. What we accept as the truth, either self-proclaimed or told to us by others, and how we choose to define our very existence. It may surprise you to know that we actually live in a world of anything is possible, nothing is real and all you have to do is choose how you want your human experience to be. Is that really possible? ABSOLUTELY! Is it easy? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
If you are not living the life that you want and you are ready to change this, then you are in the right place right now and it’s time to get to work! As a life-living strategist, I am here to work through this with you, to help you take back your personal power and to help you create your life, by your definition, of “happy ever after”.
Let’s try a little experiment here to find out what you actually believe. I’d like you to read the quote below.
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” ― Oprah Winfrey
What did that little voice in your head say when you read it? Did you hear “that’s not true” or “I agree with this statement”? Or did anything else pop into your thoughts about it? Write down what you heard so we can refer back to it later.
Now take a look at this image, what do you see?
Do you see the beauty of nature or an emptiness? Did it stir emotion within you of excitement? Loneliness? Calm? Peacefulness? or nothing at all? Record your thoughts and emotions as they appear to you.
Your initial thoughts and feelings are clues to what you truly believe on a subconscious level and these thoughts and feelings may or may not be in alignment with what you consciously believe. If this is the case, this is where we begin to look for the limiting beliefs that are stopping you from living your life as it was meant to be lived. The first step to removing a limiting belief is to discover it’s existence, then, to create a new (positive) statement that is meaningful for you. We download it into your sub-conscious replacing the negative one that has stopped you in the past. There are a few techniques you can use to do this successfully and effectively and choosing the modality that works for you is the key. Over the years I have tried many and I’ve found value is each of them at different times of my life.
If any of this resonates with you and you would like to learn more about this subject or how you can work with me, please use the contact form provided below.
Happiness is: living my life as it was meant to be lived and by my design!
Trash talk happens. When it does, do you listen or put it in its place?
Are you aware of your “trash talk?” Not sure? I can tell you it comes from that little voice in your head that just said “what is she talking about? and I don’t hear voices in my head!” Yes, that little voice. If you have spent any time listening to that voice chances are you have heard a lot of trash talk. You are not alone in this experience and it’s an epidemic in our society. It is safe to say the source of our insecurities, lack of confidence and diminished view of self-worth is fuelled by trash talk and it’s time to take out the trash for good!
There is an imaginary muscle in our thoughts that, when exercised, can toss the trash when you use it, of course, and like any muscle regular exercise is needed. Staying toned is vital to keeping the trash at a manageable level and in check at all times. Two things that are important to understand, 1. you will never rid yourself of trash talk completely and 2. you CAN keep it at a minimum so it’s not running your life.
When it comes to any new exercise regime it’s vital to take note of where you are right now and to have a goal in mind that you are reaching for. What happens between those two points requires consistent practice through focus, commitment, and disciplined determination. I have a quote that I use as a tagline in my emails that says:
“discipline is simply choosing between what I want right now and what I want most”
I read it every time I send an email as a reminder of what I want most in my life. What quote are you using to remind yourself of what’s important to you? Find a quote that resonates with you and use it!
Now that you are aware of your trash talk, what kind of things are you hearing? Do you catch yourself agreeing with your little voice? Are you as horrible as your little voice says? What we say to ourselves is horrendous and what’s really amazing is we would never allow others to say these things to us so why do we allow ourselves? Think about it? If someone told you that you were a loser, you will never amount to anything in your life, you are not good enough or pretty enough or you certainly don’t deserve to be happy. You would likely give them a full fisted sandwich in the kisser! So why do we listen to the little voice?
There was a time in our history, billions of years ago that little voice came in handy, it was the voice of reason when human beings roamed the earth in search of food and shelter. It was every man (woman) for themselves and definitely, an animal eats animal world out there. Wait a minute! It sounds like nothing has changed in a billion years!!! Our little voice is a vital part of our survival in this world and unfortunately, it doesn’t know when to shut up and keep its opinions to itself. Kidding aside that little voice has saved your life at some point and for that, you can be grateful. The downside of having our little voice in our heads is when it goes into a negative mode and constantly bombards you with thoughts that are hurtful and damaging under the disguise of trying to keep you safe. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always pick the right things to keep you safe from and this is where you need to take charge.
Most people think that life happens to them, what they don’t realize is that we are capable of creating our lives. Not only capable but responsible! What is so magical at this point is when we take responsibility for the creation of our lives we also gain the power to create life any way that we want.
What do you want?
Do you have any idea of what you truly want in your life? Most of us say “yes” but stop and think about the question and most of you will be completely blank. I know because I have gone through this exercise myself and I go through it with my clients. I still haven’t met anyone who could clearly answer the question. Why not? Well, it all comes back to that pesky little voice and the trash it’s been sharing with us over the years. Nasty!
The bottom line is, manage the little voice, have it work for you rather than against you and you can have whatever your little heart desires.
If you were truly free to choose your life and all that went into it, what would it look like for you? An interesting question, when asked conjures up quick images of fame, wealth, and a rock star’s lifestyle for most people. But, when you really look at this question and attempt to identify what you REALLY want those images typically disappear and a blank void fills your thoughts. At least this has been my experience in the past and I believe there are other people who have experienced the same.
Lately, I have become curious about this phenomenon and took the opportunity to explore why it happens and what to do about it. What I have discovered is that we have so many thoughts in our minds that they can be overwhelming. It’s the point of overwhelm that creates blank spots in our thoughts. Here is what I believe to be the most effective way to navigate through this. These are the steps I used to go through a process of clearly defining my dreams. Here are my answers to the question ~ if I were free to choose my life what would it look like.
Step 1 ~ identify what you want and fill each want with details as if they are right now. Get creative and journal the vivid details! Be sure to use in the now descriptions and words such as “I am” and “it is or has”. If you find yourself using future type language like “I wish, I want to, I will”, stop and rewrite the description in the present tense and continue the exercise
I choose comfort
Comfort for me includes a warm and welcoming home of my own. it has alternative power & heat, modern conveniences, and state of the art appliances & equipment to run it. it is a nice size around 1000-1500 sqft with two bedrooms/2 bathrooms, a bright kitchen/dining area, and a large living room for entertaining. Outside is wooded from the road to the house for privacy and the property opens up onto a lake filled with Rainbow Trout and Dolly Vardens (I love fishing!) I am living mortgage free and enjoying the company of many friends & family who come to visit.
I choose freedom
Freedom for me includes financial freedom where I’m free to enjoy holiday adventures everywhere in the world, anytime I choose to go. I enjoy the freedom to shower gifts on the people in my life that I love and care about. I enjoy the freedom to give to others as it moves me, having the freedom to give to others gives me so much pleasure!
I choose adventure
Adventure for me is having the ability to explore the world and discover the beauty within it. Adventure means I am forever learning new things and new ways of being that continue to surprise me with results I never thought possible.
I choose love
I love my friends and family and cherish the time we have together. For me, love means creating memories with my grandchildren and having their eyes light up when they see me. Love means having a partner who understands me as I understand him and we accept each other for who we are and who we are not. I feel loved by my children and hear their love every time we talk, I feel the warmth of their love every time we get together and I am a reflection of their love. To love without question or condition and always with support is the unconditional love for me.
I choose abundance
I love abundance the most! Abundance oozes into every crevice of my life and is visible every moment of the day from the smallest of details to the largest, beyond comprehension. I experience the abundance around me in nature, within the objects I touch like the smooth beach pebbles and the soft emerald green moss beneath my feet in the forest. I am grateful for having the ability to appreciate all the abundance through my ability to touch, taste, smell, hear, and see. I am truly blessed to be where I am in life and in the world.
This is step 1, being clear about what I have in my life, even before I have it! The more detail you add the clearer this will be for you and your ability to create with more success. Successful manifestation happens when you can see it, feel it, hear it, smell it, and finally taste it in that order!
On to step two…
Now that I have identified what I want in my life in step 1, step 2 is about breathing life into my wants and successfully manifesting results. In other words, taking actions to fulfill my vision. The creation of a vision board or boards depending on how many images I find for each category identified in step 1.
I am a visual person and being able to see images of my desires works for me. If you are more audio or kinetic you will want to find ways to hear or touch your vision board could be an audio recording of you speaking your vision or using 3D printing to create models of your vision. Choose what works for you and get started.
Back in the day, I used to cut pictures out of magazines and paste them onto poster board or into journals to create my vision boards.
Today I love using Pinterest to hold images of my vision and I also discovered Mind Movies! For those of us who like audio visual boards!
HEADS UP HERE! These sites can eat up hours of your time and to fully utilize them definitely allow yourself ample time to explore them. Be responsible! DO NOT go onto these sites before leaving for work or during work hours. If you do, you run the risk of becoming unemployed. I save these sites for Sunday morning, sit in bed with a coffee and my laptop. I am free to explore to my heart’s content without worry. Pick your time and day and give yourself permission to surf with abandonment!
Something to remember when creating vision boards is that they are always evolving just like my vision of what I want evolves so do my boards. This is where Pinterest works best for me! Feel free to check out my Pinterest page and perhaps find inspiration there for yourself. PTBestsolutions
I have recently started experimenting with something called “quantum jumping”, from what I understand is based on the beliefs of quantum physics and quantum mechanics. What these ‘quantums’ have in common is the belief in multiple universes or planes. Quantum jumping is a meditation, either led or self-directed, designed to put you into an alpha state of mind and ready to jump between universes encountering your doppelganger (identical you). What you do from that point is the interesting part. Here’s what I have experienced since I started the practice of QJing.
Quantum Jumping is an interesting experience that allows me to see myself differently and experience ‘what if’ scenarios. i.e. successful me, happy me, businesswoman me, explorer me, adventurous me, etc. you get the picture?
An example of a ‘what if’ scenario would be quantum jumping into a universe where I made a different decision in the past that completely changed my future.
While in the presence of my doppelganger I begin by quietly observing ‘her’ going about life and at some point I step into ‘her’ body, merging with her to become one with ‘her’. By doing this I get to experience the sensations she feels and take on her energy. When that’s complete I jump back to my universe taking with me my newly acquired energy and experience.
It’s taking a bit of getting used to and I have found quantum jumping to be a fun, interesting, and adventurous experience. One thing is for sure, each time I jump I find myself feeling refreshed, uplifted, energized, and ready to take on the world.
Now an intricate part of step 2, quantum jumping adds a layer to the process of having what I most want in my life. You can find out more about Quantum jumping with expert jumper Bert Goldman, he offers free online content and paid courses if you want to jump for yourself.
What’s step 3?
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I originally wrote this piece back in 2014, updated it again in 2015, and re-read it recently only to find that I’m not following my own advice here! I am hearing myself say “I don’t have time for (you name it I’ve said it). My first reaction was to start chastising myself for not practicing what I preach and then it occurred to me that perhaps there was a better way to bring this back into my daily awareness! When I look back I can see there were times I put this into practice and what my process was to do that. Looking closer at that process I started to see the steps I took to shift my way of being and get back on track with what’s important to me.
What is important to me?
To live my life every day with joy, to love my friends and family unconditionally, and to work with passion and purpose making a difference for others.
I can see that I am not always in alignment with these words and I need a reset moment to get me back on track! A reset moment? What does that look like? It’s a moment where I take a time out, step back to have a better overall view of where I am right now, review my priorities, make changes as needed and get back into the game with an action plan in hand! This is not a one-time-only exercise and realizing this fact has made it possible for me to get back on track faster and stay longer.
What would you change in your life if you had a transformational reset moment when you felt off track? Perhaps some of these examples are areas for a reset in your life:
reconnect with people in your life you have lost touch with
refocus your attention at work or home to bring back the pleasure in those areas
reset your goals in life because the path you are on isn’t working for you
rejuvenate your appreciation for who you are in the world (this may also be a new awareness for you)
restart your passion for living, just like when you were a child, remember those days?
re-activate your love for your job, if you didn’t have this in the beginning then a reset is mandatory!
rediscover the pleasures of life because life is meant to be enjoyed and lived fully!
I am now in the process of creating the process of a reset moment and my goal is to have something tangible that I can share with others who find themselves in the same place. If you feel that you are not on track with what’s important to you and you want the opportunity to reset, you will want to stay connected with me in this conversation. Use the comment space below or subscribe to my blog to stay in this conversation.
Here is the original post I wrote back in 2014, I would love to hear your comments about this or anything in this post that resonates with you.
It sounds funny to ask for permission to take time and that’s exactly what you must do when you are creating moments in your life. We have all said, at some point in our lives, “I can’t afford to take the time” and “I should be doing something else, not wasting time doing this”. We often do not give ourselves permission to be in the moment doing things that we like to do and it is impossible to be in the moment without it.
I started this conversation talking about creating time and being in the moment. This post is part of that conversation because giving yourself permission to use your newly created time is a key element along with being in the moment and commitment to clarity. Giving yourself permission takes awareness and practice AND, so I have discovered, it is quite rewarding when you do. What kind of rewards can you expect? It varies, from tangible rewards like lovely gifts and intangible rewards like kind and thoughtful words shared by others.
Often we use one of many excuses as to why we don’t have time.
“I have too many things to do right now, I’ll do it later”
“If I stop now I’ll never catch up”
“I’ll have plenty of time to do (stuff) when I’m older (retired)”
Which one have do you use? We typically make the mistake of thinking our time is not our own when actually, it is. Yes, we have our commitments, responsibilities, expectations and it’s up to us to make time for these and what we want in life. I know, I know, easier said than done, I agree and I still say it’s possible when you make a commitment to yourself to follow through with whatever it takes to make it happen. It starts with…
Giving yourself permission to take the time AND believing that it is possible.
From this point on every step forward is a good one whether it’s a giant leap or a baby step. The question is “what would you be doing right now if you had the time?” Pick something and make a commitment to yourself to do it. If you can’t do it right now, pick a day and time within the next 7 days to just do it! Make it happen! I would love to hear how it went for you and what your experience was if you are game to share.
Red Rover, red rover, come on over! The image is a portrait of NASA’s Mars Rover, “Opportunity” who has been roaming the surface of Mars since January 25, 2004. A man-made machine created to explore the surface of Mars in search of water or evidence of water for the purpose of supporting future generations of human beings.
“Opportunity” has a number of features that are quite human-like, such as sight, taste, and touch. It (genderless) can hear and carries out orders or commands of which it then relays to the team of NASA professionals back on Earth. Once the information is received and translated into words and images, the team gets to experience life on Mars as it is right now! As a human being, Opportunity is operating via its sub-conscious mind, carrying out tasks provided by its conscious mind (the human at the controls in NASA), and providing real-time experiences for us all to see (watch NASA videos here). The scientific community has proven without a doubt that we, as humans, operate 95% from our sub-conscious mind (rover) and only 5% from our conscious mind (spirit or command center). What does this all mean? That essentially many of us are going through life asleep at the wheel and it’s time to wake up and be the driver!
” We are spiritual beings having a human experience”
We are Earth Rovers and we have chosen to roam the Earth, experience life here, and report our experiences back to our spiritual being! Sounds crazy, doesn’t it?
If you haven’t heard of these sciences: Epigenetics, Fractal Science, Quantum Physics, or Mechanics, you will be challenged to follow this conversation. Not only are these sciences challenging all that we have been led to believe for centuries, but they are also answering the age-old questions “where did we come from” and “why are we here” in ways that actually make sense. You can find out more about Epigenetics from Dr. Bruce Lipton’s book “The Biology of Belief” where he introduces us to the ‘Rover’ concept of human beings. Consider for a moment, the possibility, that we are actually spirit beings in human bodies here on Earth to experience life? What if this is true??? That would mean our bodies are nothing more than vehicles created for the purpose of collecting data (sight, touch, hear, taste) and reporting back to our spirit where ever it may be in the universe? I know what you are thinking, she is completely off her rocker with this! Am I really? Humor me for a few minutes more…
If this is true then life just got a whole lot more exciting! As a spiritual being roving the Earth I am free to choose my experiences! If I don’t like what I’m experiencing now then it’s my choice to change it! Okay, this isn’t a new idea, it’s been talked about for many years. I have been aware of this since 2012 and it seems that knowing this hasn’t made a difference. (as revealed in previous posts) You know what they say, “Life is in the journey!”.
Consider that what stands between (me) you and (my) your life desires is not:
It may appear that these are the barriers and I assure you, they are not. No, the real barrier is (my) your perception or belief of those things, and (I) you are in a position to change these anytime you want.
“We are all living in cages with the door wide open” George Lucas
The question is why? If we are free to leave our caged lives why don’t we flee? From what I’ve learned so far, the answer is because we didn’t know we could, we didn’t know how and for some of us, what we have done in the past didn’t work so we gave up. Until now.
Now, we have knowledge (new science discoveries), new techniques & tools, and new awareness. It’s time to break through the barriers that have held us back for so many years.
While on my life journey I have discovered the most effective tool to date called “Psych-K” and now I have the ability to assist others looking to reform their limiting beliefs or perceptions. In other words, get out of our cages an on to living our life’s wishes and desires. Sounds too good to be true? Nope, just changing the perception of what’s possible.