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Time to Take Out the Trash


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Trash talk happens.  When it does, do you listen or put it in it’s place?

Are you aware of your “trash talk?”  Not sure?  I can tell you it comes from that little voice in your head that just said “what is she talking about? and I don’t hear voices in my head!”  Yes, that little voice.  If you have spent anytime listening to that voice chances are you have hear a lot of trash talk.  You are not alone in this experience and it’s an epidemic in our society.  It is safe to say the source of our insecurities, lack of confidence and diminished view of self-worth is fuelled by trash talk and it’s time to take out the trash for good!

There is an imaginary muscle in our thoughts that, when exercised, can toss the trash when you use it, of course, and like any muscle regular exercise is needed.  Staying toned is vital to keeping the trash at a manageable level and in check at all times.  Two things that are important to understand, 1. you will never rid yourself of trash talk completely and 2. you CAN keep it at a minimum so it’s not running your life.

When it comes to any new exercise regime it’s vital to take note of where you are right now and to have a goal in mind that you are reaching for.  What happens between those two points requires consistent practice through focus, commitment and disciplined determination.  I have a quote that I use as a tagline in my emails that says:

“discipline is simply choosing between what I want right now and what I want most”

I read it every time I send an email as a reminder of what I want most in my life.  What quote are you using to remind yourself of what’s important to you?  If you don’t have one, find one that resonates with you and use it!

Now that you are aware of your trash talk, what kind of things are you hearing?  Do you catch yourself agreeing with your little voice?  Are you as horrible as your little voice says?  What we say to ourselves is horrendous and what’s really amazing is we would never allow others to say these things to us so why do we allow ourselves?  Think about it?  If someone told you that you were a loser, you will never amount to anything in your life, you are not good enough or pretty enough or you certainly don’t deserve to be happy.  You would likely give them a full fisted sandwich in the kisser!  So why do we listen to the little voice?

There was a time in our history, billions of years ago that little voice came in handy, it was the voice of reason when human beings roamed the earth in search of food and shelter.  It was every man (woman) for themselves and definitely animal eat animal world out there.  Wait a minute!  It sounds like nothing has changed in a billion years!!!  Our little voice is a vital part of our survival in this world and unfortunately it doesn’t know when to shut up and keep it’s opinions to itself. Kidding aside that little voice has saved your life at some point and for that you can be grateful.  The downside of having our little voice in our heads is when it goes into negative mode and constantly bombards you with thoughts that are hurtful and damaging and this is where you need to take charge.

Most people think that life happens to them, what they don’t realize is that we are capable of creating our lives.  Not only capable but responsible!  What is so magical at this point is when we take responsibility for the creation of our lives we also gain the power to create life anyway that we want.

What do you want?

Do you have any idea of what you truly want in your life?  Most of us say “yes” but stop and think about the question and most of you will be completely blank.  I know because I have gone through this exercise myself and I go through it with my clients. I still haven’t met anyone who could clearly answer the question.  Why not?  Well, it all comes back to that pesky little voice and the trash it’s been sharing with us over the years.  Nasty!

The bottom line is manage the little voice, have it work for you rather than against you and you can have what ever your little heart desires.

Yes, you can have it all

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Standing in the Space of Upset


One of the most challenging places to stand as a coach is in the space of upset.  In that moment, when there is a need to take an unpopular position to cause a breakthrough for a client, I run the risk of losing the client because of the stand.  Why, as a coach, would I put myself in that position?  Because I believe that significant growth comes out of our most difficult moments and my job is to cause movement in areas of my client’s lives where historically there has never been movement before.

iStock_000001237210XSmallWhen I’m standing in the space of upset it’s never without pre-thought around “will it make a difference?” and “am I prepared for the consequences of taking a strong stand?”  The answers to those questions are very clear for me before I take that stand.
“Will it make a difference?”  As I mentioned before I do believe we gain significant growth out of adverse situations and there are times when my clients don’t like me for what I have to say.   I have been told that being a coach is not a popularity contest and through my experiences I can say this is true.  I know being the coach they liked would make me feel great and it doesn’t serve my clients needs.  In order to be an effective coach it has to be about the client and I want to make a difference in lives of my clients.  As an effective coach clients get what they came for and comfortably share my services with others.
“Am I prepared for the consequences of taking a strong stand?”  The answer is always YES because I am determined to cause movement in the lives of my clients so they will have results they could only imagine as possible before they started working with me as their coach.  Otherwise why would they hire me?  There are plenty of self-help books, videos, webinars and seminars available with all the same information I share and lots of opportunity to do what needs to be done without my help so why would client’s hire me?  Because I understand what it’s like to stand in their shoes, I know what’s coming and I’m prepared to go to the end of the earth for my clients even if it means making them dislike me in the process.  I am a stand for my clients to finally have movement in areas of their lives where historically no movement has come before.
Thank goodness there is more to being a coach than taking difficult stands and thank goodness clients can count on me for having the skills to take those difficult stands.  I have spent many years watching a variety of coaches and pulled from each one, something of value to add to my skill set.  I believe they have all contributed to making me a better coach for others and for this I am grateful.
Lisa Johnston-Williams
Personal Lifestyle Coach services are provided by LD Williams. Times/dates/fees are arranged as per client’s needs and agreed upon before coaching services begin. LD Williams has been providing advice and coaching services for over 20 yrs to men and women across North America. Her services are non-medical in nature and based on her personal life experiences.

2015 in review


The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 1,200 times in 2015. If it were a cable car, it would take about 20 trips to carry that many people.

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What is Step 3?


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Continuing on with the conversation If you were free ~ what would you choose?  here is what works for me and is the next  step in my process of choosing what I want in my life. Step 3 is about discovering who I am, finding clarity in who I choose to be and identifying the words that resonate powerfully with me.  If you haven’t seen steps 1&2 I recommend that you read them first so step 3 will make sense to you.

            Step one                        Step two

 Who am I REALLY?  One thing that was quite clear to me before I worked on this piece, I thought I knew who I was and then I discovered that I had no clue!  I discovered that the people in my world saw me  differently than I saw myself.  I discovered that those people in my life saw me differently from each other as well.  When asked they used words like: a bold and courageous woman, a loving mother, a woman with confidence,  trustworthy, a leader, fun, happy, giving, caring, loving and generous.  No-one used words like sad, lost, unreliable, afraid, not good enough, unhappy, a fraud, lousy mother, terrible friend, and selfish.  The latter were words I used to describe myself so you could imagine my surprise when the people in my world said differently.  How could this be?  First of all I have to admit I did see some of the qualities others saw in me but I didn’t believe them and those words didn’t fit with the ones I identified with so I dismissed them as real.

So when did this all shift for me?  Well it was in 2012, I was sitting in a weekend seminar with 185 strangers listening to the guy at the front of the room.  We were deep into the question “who am I?”  I was getting quite frustrated with the question, we had been asking it for two days and it appeared I was no closer to the answer than when we started two days earlier!  I listened to others in the room grappling with the question just like me and it was apparent that none of us knew who we were.  Then something happened on the third day that I will never forget.  The guy at the front of the room was talking about words and that without words we didn’t exist.  Really?  He went on to say that without language nothing in our world would exist.  Are you kidding me?  Really?  Then he did something that finally made sense to me.  He held up his index finger, pointing it towards the ceiling, I looked up and saw nothing. He asked people in the room to describe what they saw and there were answers like: a hand, finger pointing, the number one, this way up and he said, now describe what you see without using words.  The room was silent.  I got two things out of this exercise. 1. without words we can not describe what we see and 2. every person who offered a description were correct and they all saw something different in the same thing.  This was  the answer to how we can see things differently in each other and why different people see things differently.  It was also the opening I needed to answer the question who am I.  So who am I?  I am my word.

I am my word and I can be any word I choose to be  who am I?

How powerful is that???  I stood up and asked, the guy at the front of the room, “do you mean to say that I can be any word I choose to be?”  The answer was ~ YES!  In that moment I had the most incredible moving experience I have ever felt, it was like my whole world spun on it’s axis and opened up to a brand new world of possibilities.  I could be any word I wanted to be!  Once this settled into my brain it created a whole new way of being that to this day still effective and powerful when I choose it to be.  One of my favourite exercises is to start my day with the sentence “I am the possibility of ______. I fill in the blank with words like “being a bold leader”,  “generosity”, and my favourite, “being a magnet for yes”.  It’s incredible how often I hear the word “yes” when I use that one.  The point is words are very powerful and our world doesn’t exist without them so my advice to you is choose your words wisely and make them work for you not against you.

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lisa

 

 

If you were free ~ what would you choose? Step 2


If you were truly free to choose your life and all that went into it, what would it look like for you?  Interesting question, when asked conjures up quick images of fame, wealth and a rock star’s lifestyle for most people.  But, when you really look at this question and attempt to identify what you REALLY want those images typically disappear and a blank void fills your thoughts.  At least this has been my experience in the past and I believe there are other people who have experienced the same.

This blog post is about step 2 in the process of having what I truly want in my life.  Use this link to see step 1. 

Now that I have identified what I want in my life in step 1, step 2 is about breathing life into my wants and successfully manifesting results.  In other words taking actions to fulfill my vision.  The creation of vision board or boards depending on how many images I find for each category identified in step 1.

I am a visual person and being able to see images of my desires works for me.  If you are more audio or kinetic you will want to find ways to hear or touch your vision board could be an audio recording of you speaking your vision or using 3D printing to create models of your vision.  Choose what works for you and get started.

Back in the day I used to cut pictures out of magazines and paste them onto poster board or into journals to create my vision boards.  Today I love using Pinterest to hold images of my vision and

pintereststumbleupon I utilize Stumbleupon to find images when I don’t know where to begin.   HEADS UP HERE! Both of these sites can eat up hours of your time so allow yourself time to explore and appreciate them.  Be responsible!  DO NOT go onto these sites before leaving for work or during work hours.  If you do, you run the risk if becoming unemployed.   I save these sites for Sunday morning, sit in bed with a coffee and my laptop.  I am free to explore to my heart’s content without worry.  Pick your time and day and give yourself permission to surf with abandonment!

Something to remember when creating vision boards is that they are always evolving just like my vision of what I want evolves so do my boards.  This is where Pinterest works best for me! Feel free to check out my pinterest page and perhaps find inspiration there for yourself.  PTBestsolutions

I have recently started experimenting with something called “quantum jumping”, from what I understand is based on the beliefs of quantum physics and quantum mechanics.  What these ‘quantums’ have in common is the believe in multiple universes or planes.  Quantum jumping is a meditation, either led or self-directed, designed to put you into an alpha state of mind and ready to jump between universes encountering your doppleganger (identical you). What you do from that point is the interesting part.  Here’s what I have experienced since I started the practice of QJing.

  • Quantum Jumping is an interesting experience that allows me to see myself differently and experience ‘what if’ scenarios. i.e. successful me, happy me, business woman me, explorer me, adventurous me, etc. you get the picture?
  • An example of a ‘what if’ scenario would be quantum jumping into a universe where I made a different decision in the past that completely changed my future.
  • While in the presence of my doppleganger I begin by quietly observing ‘her’ going about life and at some point I step into ‘her’ body, merging with her to become one with ‘her’.  By doing this I get to experience the sensations she feels and take on her energy.  When that’s complete I jump back to my universe taking with me my newly acquired energy and experience.
  • It’s taking a bit of getting used to and I have found quantum jumping to be a fun, interesting, and an adventurous experience.  One thing is for sure, each time I jump I find myself feeling refreshed, uplifted, energized and ready to take on the world.

Now an intricate part of step 2, quantum jumping adds a layer to the process of having what I most want in my life.  You can find out more about Quantum jumping with expert jumper Bert Goldman, he offers free online content and paid courses if you want to jump for yourself.

What’s step 3?

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lisa

 

If you were free ~ what would you choose?


If you were truly free to choose your life and all that went into it, what would it look like for you?  Interesting question, when asked conjures up quick images of fame, wealth and a rock star’s lifestyle for most people.  But, when you really look at this question and attempt to identify what you REALLY want those images typically disappear and a blank void fills your thoughts.  At least this has been my experience in the past and I believe there are other people who have experienced the same.

Lately I have become curious about this phenomena and took the opportunity to explore the why it happens and what to do about it.  What I have discovered is that we have so many thoughts in our minds that they can be overwhelming.  It’s the point of overwhelm that creates the blank spots in our thoughts.  Here is what I believe to be the most effective way to navigate through this. These are the steps I used to go through a process of clearly defining my dreams.  Here are my answers the question ~ if I were free to choose my life what would it look like.

Step 1 ~ identify what you want and fill each want with details as if they are right now.  Get creative and journal the vivid details! Be sure to use in the now descriptions and words such as “I am” and “it is or has”.  If you find yourself using future type language, stop and rewrite the description in present tense and continue the exercise

I choose comfort

Comfort for me includes a warm and welcoming home of my own. it has alternative power & heat, modern conveniences and state of the art appliances & equipment to run it.  it is a nice size around 15-1800 sqft with two bedrooms/2 bathrooms, a large kitchen/dining area, and games room for entertaining.  Outside is wooded from the road to the house for privacy and the property opens up onto a small pebbled beach.  I am living mortgage free and enjoying the company of many friends & family who come to visit.

I choose freedom

Freedom for me includes financial freedom where I’m free to enjoy holiday adventures anywhere I am able to go anywhere in the world, anytime I want. I enjoy the freedom to shower gifts on the people I love and care about, gifts that I purchased because I could. The freedom to give to others as it moves me. I love to shop and having the freedom to do so gives me so much pleasure!

I choose adventure

Adventure for me is having the ability to explore the world and discover the beauty within it.  Adventure means I am forever learning new things and new ways of being that continue to surprise me with results I never thought possible.

I choose love

Love for me means feeling love for others and feeling loved by others.  I love my friends and family and cherish the time we have together.  Love means creating memories with my grandchildren and having their eyes light up when they see me.  Love means having a partner who understands me as I understand him and we accept each other for who we are and who we are not.  To love without question or condition and always with support.

I choose abundance

I love abundance the most!  Abundance seeps into every crevice of my life and is visible every moment of the day from the smallest of details to the largest, beyond comprehension.  I experience the abundance around me in nature, within the objects I touch like the smooth beach pebbles and the soft emerald green moss beneath my feet in the forest.  I am grateful for having the ability to appreciate all the abundance through touch, taste, smell, sound and sight.  I truly am blessed to be where I am in life and in the world.

This is step 1, being clear about what I want in my life.  The more detail you add the clearer this will be for you and your ability to create more successful.  Successful manifestation happens when you can see it, feel it, hear it, smell it and finally taste it in that order!

On to step two…

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ciao for now,

Lisa

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