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“I’m like a fine wine. I get better with age. The best is yet to come.”
They say life begins at 50 and I have to say that has been true for me. Like a fine wine, my life has become sweeter, more robust and definitely richer. When I look back on earlier times, during my 40’s, there was a lot of unrest in my life. My children were growing up, finishing school, getting ready to leave home and I was starting to become aware of the major changes coming my way. Unlike some women I know, I didn’t feel the need to fight the aging battle. I’ve watched many women before me struggle with the thought of getting older at 20, 30, 40 and some never get past that struggle. I feel sorry for those who fight the process of aging, it’s inevitable and unstoppable! It’s a battle they will never win!
Don’t get me wrong, I did my share of slowing down the process with hair dye and magic potions promising to keep me young but then it occurred to me that I had a choice. I could spend money on slowing down the aging process or I could let go and find the pleasure in the process. I chose the latter and my life has become fuller because of that choice.
It started with a tattoo
Tattoos have intrigued me for years, I admired those who wore them, for their bravery to endure the pain I associated with having them etched into the skin. I listened to the stories behind the artwork, the hours of pain they endured and the love they have for each and every tattoo they wear. I still wanted one so for my 50th birthday, my gift to myself was a small and delightful tattoo of a gecko. Why a gecko? Geckoes represent resourcefulness for me, they are quick, purposeful in their movements and interesting to watch as they make their way through life. A reminder for me to live my life like the gecko.
At age 50 I struggled with questions about my life like “is this all there is?” “Is this what I have to look forward to for the rest of my life?” and a strong awareness of “this is not where I want to be”. These questions plagued me for a couple more years before I choose to change the answers that resonated in my mind. My decision was not a popular one with the people in my life but it was the right one for me and that’s what mattered most to me. You will find more about me and my story throughout this website and if it sounds similar to yours I’m not surprised, many of us have walked the same paths. In my sharing my wish is to connect with others, who are on this journey because none of us need to walk alone and there is strength in numbers.
I have spent the past 7yrs finding my way on this journey and in the process, I have discovered more answers to tough questions. As they say “life is not the destination, it’s about the journey”, what they don’t tell you is how, when and why and that’s what this page is all about. If you have questions and you are looking for another perspective on answers, please feel free to contact me, maybe some of mine will make a difference for you too.