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I am Trust



This is, without question, the foundation of everything I have learned to date. Without this piece I find myself deep in the muck of life over and over and over again. It has taken me years to assimilate this statement into my being and it’s only been within the past 6 months that I truly live by these words, 99.9% of the time. I have noticed that I’m no longer struggling with lack and when lack does appear in my thoughts I automatically counter it with “I trust that everything happens exactly the way it should for my higher good”. I trust that the Universe/Divine/higher-self has my back and always wants the best for me, even when it doesn’t feel like it at the time. In the past, I had wanted something so bad that I could taste it and when it didn’t materialize I was heart broken and disappointed that the powers that be didn’t deliver. Then when I take a moment to look back at all those disappointing moments I can see that they were not in my best interest and I would have missed out on the moments that have been.

It’s so hard to help others see this wisdom and even though a part of me wants to I also understand that others are on their path too which includes disappointment, struggle, lack and higher good reflection. Does this mean that I should stand aside and let others suffer? Not at all! When people come to me with their challenges it is my purpose in life to assist in any way that I can because when I do it feels right for me and for them. One of my most cherished rewards is watching someone get a piece of their own puzzle and I get to see their light shining brighter because of something I said or did. The warm glow I feel when I get to contribute to their higher good and to the higher good of humanity in whole. There comes a point in our life that we have to just trust the statement rather than constantly looking for proof and it’s when I got this fully, I experienced a feeling of freedom I didn’t know was possible!

I trust that everything happens exactly as it should for my higher good and for the higher good of humanity. Not by my definition but by how it feels inside, my inner knowing hums at a frequency that sounds like nothing I can describe with words, just feeling. One thing I can put into words is the profound impact these special moments have on my life. Equisite, delicious, delightful experiences, each and every one of them that cause me to want to do more.

You + Me = We

I am Worthy



Of course I am, I say these words to myself all the time! I AM worthy of the best that love and life have to offer! Right? Saying this statement in a Psych-K session revealed otherwise and it was the first time I experienced the difference between what I thought was true and the truth I was unaware of. How is this possible and what the heck is Psych-K?

Psych-K is a relatively young healing system created by Robert Williams back in 1987. This modality works at a sub-conscious level as a truth revealing and balancing tool used to identify and effectively rewrite limiting beliefs into empowering ones. A long statement that means your inner truth, no matter what you say is revealed, using muscle testing techniques, to confirm your truth. It’s your personal lie-detector used to expose areas in your life that you may want to pay attention to. The good thing is this tool works for you not against you because it reveals the source of those pesky bad habits that block and helps you re-frame limiting beliefs driving those habits.

I learned about Psych-K in a book that I was reading, back in 2016, called “Biology of Belief” by Dr. Bruce Lipton. He talked about this modality and his experiences with it. I was intrigued, something in here spoke to my inner knowing and I stepped onto the path of learning more. I found out that Psych-K was indeed a healing modality and workshops to learn how to use it was available in my area. I signed up for the basic course and experienced my first of many mind-blown moments.

It was my turn to work with the instructor, Sandra Wallin, in the front of the group. We went through the setup procedure to establish connection between us and to recognize how I responded to positive and negative responses. We both clearly understood the different responses and then we began, it was like this.

Sandra: “Do you believe that you are worthy?” “Of course!” I said, with a big smile on my face, this was something I had done a lot of healing work around.

Sandra: “Let’s test this statement to confirm it as your truth”. “No problem” I replied. I felt confident in my answer because I’ve been working on healing my self-worth for a while now and I believed I’ve mastered this one.

Sandra: “Repeat this statement out loud and we will muscle test for clarity, I am worthy of the best that love and life have to offer.” Immediately after repeating the statement out loud, the muscle test indicated this was not true! Not true? How could this be? I had done so much work around healing my issues with self-worth! Sandra could see my dis-belief so we did the test again slightly changing the statement to “I am not worthy…” and the results confirmed that this was the statement I truly believed. I was dumbfounded. She asked me if I would like to transform that believe statement into a positive truth and I said “absolutely!”. We went through the balance procedure for re-writing the dis-empowering belief statement into an em-powering one and locked it into my sub-conscious mind and proceeded to muscle test the original statement again. This time the results were reversed and I was introduced to the difference between conscious and sub-conscious minds.

I had no idea they were not one and the same and I certainly had no idea they didn’t work the same! I also learned that day that I wanted to learn more about this modality so I signed up and completed the Advanced course in January 2018 and added this life-changing tool to my growing tool chest.

Today, three years later I still use this tool, combined with a few others I’ve collected along the way, to help others find their self-worth too. I truly believe that we are all worthy of the best that love and life have to offer and yes I muscle tested this statement to be sure that it’s my truth.

#SharedWisdom

Hello From Within


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Messages from the inside-out

Coincidence? Synchronicity? Divine Intervention? Or something else completely different? When I see a sign that resonates with me, I believe something else is at play here. The more I see, hear, and feel these signs, the more I feel connected to a long-forgotten way of being that gives me peace within my heart. When I look deeper into the experience of seeing signs, I am excited by what I’m learning about communication with others who have passed on, with others who are still present and the possibility of communicating with others in the future. I am talking about the people, past, present and future, who have touched my heart throughout my life.

It begins with the understanding that all living things are made up of energy, and energy is infinite. Therefore, the very essence of everything living is always present and forever in our energy field. Imagine the scope of this. For me, it evokes images of the Matrix, where everything is shown as binary code swirling like dust in a tornado and interwoven like the cloth of fine tapestry—I am in awe of life in its entirety. There are cultures around the world that see, hear, and feel the connections we have with all living things, and for those of us who have forgotten this part of ourselves, these cultures are our source of remembering.

As I awaken to the possibility of being connected as one with all, I am rewarded with the gift of seeing, hearing, and feeling the signs of my loved ones who have passed on. In my heart, I now know that they are always with me and that I can live my life without the pain of losing them physically. When I open myself up to the possibility of experiencing them differently, I am no longer mourning their death but enjoying their presence in a way that fills my heart with connectedness.

What some people see as coincidence or synchronicity, I see as messages from others who are thinking of me, including those on the other side of the veil. The divine intervention that others speak about is the result of my direct connection with my Higher Self, my ancestors, my loved ones no longer physically living on Earth, as well as my Guides, angels and spirits here to support me in the world. All I have to do is listen with my heart and keep my mind out of the conversation.

This is easier said than done when we are taught to dismiss anything we do not fully understand. Since the beginning of time, as human beings, we have evolved from being heart-centered to mind-centered, and this has brought massive chaos to our world. It’s time to go back to being heart-centred, to reconnect with all living beings as one. Many cultures around the world that still live by the ancient teachings understand this and are now being seen as our greatest teachers for bringing back this gift that is within us all. What does this have to do with the topic at hand? In my opinion, it is the source of seeing, hearing, and feeling our loved ones in a way that has eluded many of us for centuries. Are you ready to connect with your loved ones in a whole new way? Open your heart to the possibility and let go of the pain of loss forever.

See The Signs

They are everywhere! Anytime you think about your loved ones, they are there in the form of a memory. The same goes for when you see something that you identify with them, like a dragonfly, a butterfly, an eagle, a white feather, or a special saying, poem, or song. In our time of existence, we are so lucky to have the ability to preserve their likeness with photographs, and we can look at those photographs for years, bringing happiness to our hearts when we look at the people in the pictures. We see them in ourselves and our families, as their DNA lives within them as well. Seeing beyond the physical is the key to seeing them anytime that we want. Remembering the good times and sharing fun stories helps to elevate the feeling of missing their physical presence. Knowing that they are always with you brings a sense of peace to your heart.

Feel The Signs

They are all around us! That touch on your shoulder or the feeling like someone is watching you when no one is there and the warmth in your heart when you are thinking of someone are all connections from beyond your present vision. Just like the wind that you can’t see without dust, you know it exists and accept that without question because you can see evidence of it—you can hear it and you can feel it upon your skin. It is the same with energy. We can’t see it without aids and we know it exists. Remember when I said that all living beings are made of energy? When you are open to the possibility that there are other ways to feel, you become aware of everything around you, including those who are no longer part of our physical world.

Hear The Signs

For me, this has been the most challenging and rewarding sign of all. For me, this has brought the most peace to my heart. I hear my mother’s voice in my thoughts, sometimes in my dreams and often during my day at random times. Sometimes I hear her expressing her love or her concern for my safety (once a mom, always a mom). I hear my brother’s laugh when I think of him and it makes me smile— I know it is him because he has a very distinctive laugh like no one else I know. I hear the voices of so many people that are no longer here on Earth physically when I think of them, and this is the sign that confirms, for me, that they are still within my heart. Some are more vocal than others, and sometimes I address them out loud so they can feel my vibration too. Choosing to learn, practice and embrace this way of connecting with those who are gone from this Earth has brought peace to my heart and allows me to live free of the pain of loss.

“You are never without when they are always within”

 

Giant Leaps From Little Steps


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I have been known to say “knowing doesn’t make a difference” when talking about what to do when making changes in my life.  For example, I would say “I want to lose weight”, I know there are countless ways to lose weight and I’m not using any of them!  It feels like every day that someone is sharing their weight loss method that worked for them and if I used it I would lose weight too!  Yes, I believe this is true and knowing doesn’t make a difference!

I could lose weight (I don’t have any medical reasons why I can’t) and I choose not too.  Why? Because there is something else at play here that lives deep within my sub-conscious that stops me and until I find it nothing will work. Anytime I feel blocked or held back in my life the culprit is a limiting belief I hold in my sub-conscious mind.

When you consider that we have thousands of thoughts coursing through our brains every minute and the challenging part is we are unaware of most of them. Is it possible that there are limiting beliefs among those thoughts that are mucking up our lives?  As I read the “The Biology of Belief” by Dr. Bruce Lipton I have learned more about the existence of these beliefs and how they influence my actions and inactions.

Knowing this DOES make a difference!

Eureka, I have found a piece of life’s puzzle that was missing!  Now I have what I need to change the list of beliefs I have been listening to most of my life, rewriting them in a way that empowers me.  Is it possible to change the words in my belief statements and create new believable belief statements?  Could it be this simple?  The answer is YES and it’s highly effective when you go through the steps I am sharing here.

It starts with identifying the hidden belief statements by looking at your feelings and actions in a specific situation.  For example, when I looked at my current financial situation I focussed on how I felt about it, how I viewed money, how I saw other people with money, how I handled money, etc.  What emerged were very loud, very negative thoughts and feelings I had about money. Up till now, I wasn’t aware of most of those thoughts and feelings and for the few, I was aware of, I didn’t see them as controlling my life!  This was a total eye-opener for me!

What is so cool is, I use this process in all areas of my life where I have felt stuck, stopped, and out of ways to change.

Here is the step by step process I went through:

  1. I identified the limiting belief as I believed it to be (the negative statement I heard in my mind)
  2. I reworded the old belief statement into a positive one using the following criteria: state in the first person (I), use present tense (now, not future), using positive language and keeping it short and finally, make it emotionally meaningful to me (resonating)
  3. I effectively use these statements in meditation, emotional freedom technique and written form to remind myself that they are my truth.

It sounds simple, doesn’t it?  I can assure you it wasn’t and each time I go through this process I can honestly say it is so worth the discomfort of converting old into new! When I was writing my original belief statements I was taken back as the words I wrote would cause tears to well up in my eyes. The feelings were so raw and right there! I was literally writing and crying at the same time and struggling through the process. I had a flashback of specific moments in my life that were painful and confirmed why I believed these statements.  I have to say I learn a few valuable lessons while going through this experience 1. the pain of living with these statements far outweighed the pain I was feeling at the moment and 2. I didn’t die going through this exercise.

I was challenged to reword these belief statements using the criteria.  I found myself using words like I wish, I want, I will, none of which are present tense.  I also found my statements were too long and when I read them, they sounded good but I wasn’t really connected to them.  What’s really amazing to me is the completeness of all the work I went through in this process. Now, I can look at these statements and I no longer have any feelings about them.  I have come back to this post on many occasions to test the process and when I read these statements it’s like they didn’t mean anything to me.  I am so grateful for the tools I have learned and as new limiting beliefs expose themselves to me I put myself through this exercise with them too.

Here is a list of limiting beliefs I identified for myself, as you read this you may find yourself resonating with these particular beliefs too.  Feel free to use them if you do.

  • Original belief: I believe that when I ask for help no-one will be there for me
  • New belief: I feel love and support from others like a warm blanket on a cold day
  • Original belief: I believe that no matter what I do things will never change for me
  • New belief: Every step I take changes my view of life
  • Original belief: I believe that happiness is possible I just don’t know what will make me happy
  • New belief: I recognize happy moments in my life every day, both big and small
  • Old belief: I believe, despite multiple attempts to change it,  I am not where I want to be and I will never get there
  • New belief: I am exactly where I need to be and anywhere I want to go is reachable from here

When I read these words a smile has replaced the tears and the peacefulness I feel inside confirms the transformation for me. It takes little steps to transform your limiting beliefs and the promise of giant leaps is real. Yes, it does work and it can work for you too when you are ready. If you need help formulating your statements, feel free to contact me for help.

What limiting beliefs hold you back in your life?

What Was I Thinking???


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“You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe.” 

– Oprah Winfrey –

Your subconscious mind accepts as truth, the statements you tell yourself, it doesn’t care whether those statements are negative or positive.  

So why would you choose to continually tell yourself that you are not good enough?  Not smart enough? Not pretty enough? Or that you don’t deserve to be happy? How often do you hear any of these statements in your head? More than once is too often and it’s time to change this.  Statements like: “I’m so stupid, I’m not worthy, nobody loves me, I can’t do this” are some of the more damaging ones and there are more!   Anyone of these statements can stop you from having what you want in your life and the good news is you don’t have to listen to them anymore!  First of all, none of the statements above are true.

I can hear some of you saying “they are for me” and to that, I say again, NONE OF THESE STATEMENTS ARE TRUE for anyone.

These words are a perspective, yours or someone else’s, that repeat themselves over and over in your subconscious mind, making you feel like these words are the truth.  These negative statements are bogus and they were added to your life-living program that resides in your subconscious mind. At some point in your life or before (another conversation), these programmed statements, and many others, were saved in your subconscious mind’s file system causing you to operate in life as if they are true.  In other words, these are limiting belief statements embedded in your subconscious mind and they are limiting your life potential. Here’s the thing, you don’t have to live with these words anymore and you can reform these statements from negative into positive ones and change the outcome of your life.  Not only have other people done this successfully for themselves, but more people, like you, are also discovering that they can too.

Consider the alternative statements “I am good at what I do”, “I have all the knowledge I need” “I am beautiful, inside and out”, “I am worthy of the best that love and life have to offer” These statements are true for people who believe these words, whole-heartedly.  They are the people who appear to be insanely happy all the time!  You know ‘those’ people, the ones who appear to be over the top happy, living life to it’s fullest, always wearing a perma-grin on their lips.  I used to think “they can’t be that happy all the time”!  Well, a matter a fact, yes they can and you can be as well, if that’s your goal!  The fact is our natural way of being, as a human, is to be happy, content, joyful, grateful, compassionate, caring, social, nurturing, happy, happy, happy! It’s time to be the human being you were born to be!

So, why are we so unhappy?

Our thoughts are the main reason and they are the result of what we believe about our thoughts.  What we believe about ourselves, our life, and the world we live in.  Every thought we have, also known as opinions and perspectives, is formed by our beliefs, both positive and negative.  What we accept as the truth, either self-proclaimed or told to us by others, and how we choose to define our very existence. It may surprise you to know that we actually live in a world of anything is possible, nothing is real and all you have to do is choose how you want your human experience to be.  Is that really possible?  ABSOLUTELY!  Is it easy? ABSOLUTELY NOT!

If you are not living the life that you want and you are ready to change this, then you are in the right place right now and it’s time to get to work!  As a life-living strategist, I am here to work through this with you, to help you take back your personal power and to help you create your life, by your definition, of “happy ever after”.

Let’s try a little experiment here to find out what you actually believe. I’d like you to read the quote below.

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” ― Oprah Winfrey

What did that little voice in your head say when you read it?  Did you hear “that’s not true” or “I agree with this statement”? Or did anything else pop into your thoughts about it?  Write down what you heard so we can refer back to it later.

Now take a look at this image, what do you see?

Do you see the beauty of nature or an emptiness?  Did it stir emotion within you of excitement? Loneliness? Calm? Peacefulness? or nothing at all?  Record your thoughts and emotions as they appear to you.

Your initial thoughts and feelings are clues to what you truly believe on a subconscious level and these thoughts and feelings may or may not be in alignment with what you consciously believe.  If this is the case, this is where we begin to look for the limiting beliefs that are stopping you from living your life as it was meant to be lived.  The first step to removing a limiting belief is to discover it’s existence, then, to create a new (positive) statement that is meaningful for you. We download it into your sub-conscious replacing the negative one that has stopped you in the past.  There are a few techniques you can use to do this successfully and effectively and choosing the modality that works for you is the key.  Over the years I have tried many and I’ve found value is each of them at different times of my life.

If any of this resonates with you and you would like to learn more about this subject or how you can work with me, please use the contact form provided below.

Happiness is: living my life as it was meant to be lived and by my design!

Time to Take Out the Trash


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Trash talk happens.  When it does, do you listen or put it in its place?

Are you aware of your “trash talk?”  Not sure?  I can tell you it comes from that little voice in your head that just said “what is she talking about? and I don’t hear voices in my head!”  Yes, that little voice.  If you have spent any time listening to that voice chances are you have heard a lot of trash talk.  You are not alone in this experience and it’s an epidemic in our society.  It is safe to say the source of our insecurities, lack of confidence and diminished view of self-worth is fuelled by trash talk and it’s time to take out the trash for good!

There is an imaginary muscle in our thoughts that, when exercised, can toss the trash when you use it, of course, and like any muscle regular exercise is needed.  Staying toned is vital to keeping the trash at a manageable level and in check at all times.  Two things that are important to understand, 1. you will never rid yourself of trash talk completely and 2. you CAN keep it at a minimum so it’s not running your life.

When it comes to any new exercise regime it’s vital to take note of where you are right now and to have a goal in mind that you are reaching for.  What happens between those two points requires consistent practice through focus, commitment, and disciplined determination.  I have a quote that I use as a tagline in my emails that says:

“discipline is simply choosing between what I want right now and what I want most”

I read it every time I send an email as a reminder of what I want most in my life.  What quote are you using to remind yourself of what’s important to you?  Find a quote that resonates with you and use it!

Now that you are aware of your trash talk, what kind of things are you hearing?  Do you catch yourself agreeing with your little voice?  Are you as horrible as your little voice says?  What we say to ourselves is horrendous and what’s really amazing is we would never allow others to say these things to us so why do we allow ourselves?  Think about it?  If someone told you that you were a loser, you will never amount to anything in your life, you are not good enough or pretty enough or you certainly don’t deserve to be happy.  You would likely give them a full fisted sandwich in the kisser!  So why do we listen to the little voice?

There was a time in our history, billions of years ago that little voice came in handy, it was the voice of reason when human beings roamed the earth in search of food and shelter.  It was every man (woman) for themselves and definitely, an animal eats animal world out there.  Wait a minute!  It sounds like nothing has changed in a billion years!!!  Our little voice is a vital part of our survival in this world and unfortunately, it doesn’t know when to shut up and keep its opinions to itself. Kidding aside that little voice has saved your life at some point and for that, you can be grateful.  The downside of having our little voice in our heads is when it goes into a negative mode and constantly bombards you with thoughts that are hurtful and damaging under the disguise of trying to keep you safe. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always pick the right things to keep you safe from and this is where you need to take charge.

Most people think that life happens to them, what they don’t realize is that we are capable of creating our lives.  Not only capable but responsible!  What is so magical at this point is when we take responsibility for the creation of our lives we also gain the power to create life any way that we want.

What do you want?

Do you have any idea of what you truly want in your life?  Most of us say “yes” but stop and think about the question and most of you will be completely blank.  I know because I have gone through this exercise myself and I go through it with my clients. I still haven’t met anyone who could clearly answer the question.  Why not?  Well, it all comes back to that pesky little voice and the trash it’s been sharing with us over the years.  Nasty!

The bottom line is, manage the little voice, have it work for you rather than against you and you can have whatever your little heart desires.

Yes, you can have it all