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Time is of the Essence


No Time!

No Time!

Have you ever heard someone say “I don’t have time?”  Of course you have and I expect it’s something you have said yourself many times throughout your life, most of us have.  “I don’t have time!  Is this really true?  Is it possible to change time, create time or make time?

I had the pleasure of spending time with a lovely group of women the other night and one conversation in particular stood out for me.  One of the younger women was sharing that she didn’t have time to do the things she wanted to do and I could see she was quite stressed about it.  Listening to her share make me think about the whole concept of time and how our lives are so wrapped up in it.

Someone once said to me that “time doesn’t exist anywhere else but in our minds and only humans use time as a measure”.  I laughed and replied, “what do you mean time doesn’t exist?  Of course it does and it’s finite!”  There are 24 hours in a day, 8 hours in a work day (for some) and an hour has a maximum of 60 minutes!  I am most aware of time when I have more things to do than the time to do them.  You know what I mean?  So you can’t tell me that time doesn’t exist!!!

Funny though, when I started thinking about it and allowed this concept to linger on my mind I noticed a shift in my perception of time.  I noticed that, on occasion, time appeared to stop and at times felt like it slowed down, almost like a rubber band, it seemed like it stretched at opportune and inopportune times.  How was this possible? I wanted to know more.

I set aside my biased opinion about time and allowed myself to consider that time really didn’t exist outside of my mind.  I imagined my day without using the concept of time and an amazing thing happened.  Time disappeared.  Literally, it disappeared and I was amazed at how much I was able to accomplish that day.  Not only did I get a lot done, I was able to truly enjoy all that I did and I marvelled how I felt when I was done.  Reflecting back on the day I could see how, by removing the concept of time, my day was full and fulfilling at the same time without stress and anxiety.  As a result of this experiment I have become a believer that time is a concept and that we do have the ability to exist without it any time we wish.   I have adopted the thought that “I am the creator of my time and I am not longer controlled by time itself.”  Could you imagine what this would look like on a daily basis?

Utter chaos I would suspect.  Time was created for the purpose of controlling people.  Think about it.  Who would show up, on time, for work?  For appointments?  For play dates and coffee?  Imagine if time hadn’t been created, how would we manage to function?  Quite differently I would venture and without the mountain of issues we have today.  Go back to a time when time wasn’t measure as it is today, back to prehistoric times when time was measure differently.

I’m not an expert on prehistoric times and I understand is that period of time was measure by seasons and daylight.  Cavemen and women got up with the light, went to sleep when it was dark, planted crops when the ground thawed and harvested before the ground froze again. I imagine life was much harder and much simpler without all the modern conveniences we enjoy today and I bet they didn’t sit around the fire exclaiming that they “didn’t have time”, nor were they stressed about all the things that they had to do.  They were too busy doing rather than talking about it.  I understand that their thoughts and thought processes were quite simple compared to the modern man and woman of today.  Back then I expect their thoughts consisted of “eat or be eaten, find shelter and keep warm”. The simplicity of their time, I would suspect, allowed time to move much slower than the pace we experience today.

Fast forward to today.  It wouldn’t be realistic to think we can live without time all the time and I believe we can alter our perception of time when we know how and when it suits our needs.  The secret is in the knowing and I will share what I know so you too can make time for the things you want in your life.

There are a few key elements required to successfully alter time one of which is being fully present in the moment.  Although challenging being present in the moment is a learned skills that requires ongoing practice to master.  The good news is once learned this skill will enhance other areas of your life as well.  What do I mean by “being present in the moment?”

Simply put it means to be fully focused or aware of everything around you in any given moment without conscious thought about anything else from the past or in the future.  Take a moment to be aware of your surrounding right now as you read this and note everything that you have not either noticed or paid attention to because you were thinking about what you did yesterday/last week or what you need to do later/tomorrow etc.  

Take a moment to really acknowledge your present surroundings including visual objects, sounds, smells, how your body feels and the thoughts in your head.  A simple exercise of thanking each item you acknowledge as you become aware of them is a great way to keep your focus in the moment rather than wandering back to past or present thoughts.  If you find your thoughts wandering (as they do in all of us) gently direct them back to the exercise at hand.  What I do when I find my thoughts wandering is to say (silently) “thank you for sharing and right now I am being present in the moment”.  Sometimes I have to repeat this many times to get back to the exercise and that’s okay, it normal and part of the process of learning and strengthening this skill.

At this very moment, as I do this exercise myself, this is what I am experiencing.  I can hear the ticking of a clock and I am grateful for the consistent sound of each tick.  I can hear a consistent hum or vibration, I believe coming from within me, that I wasn’t aware of before and I am grateful for the opportunity to hear it.  In the distance I can hear the occasional vehicle passing nearby on the highway, airplane flying and I am grateful for the times that I live in that allow for this type of transportation.  Visually I am surrounded by the warmth of wood in the cabin where I am sitting and I’m grateful for all this cabin has to offer me including warmth, protection from the elements, security and comfort.  I am aware of the things within my sight including a soft light, comfortable couches and modern furniture I am grateful to have in my life.  I am present to the colours of things in my space, I have surrounded myself with earth tones of greens/browns/black/red/orange and natural tones.  I am grateful for the soothing feelings I have when I’m in this space.  In this moment I am thinking of nothing else but what I have just described and for a brief moment the rest of the world did not exist.  While in this exercise I was not aware of time at all or anything else outside of what I just shared.  Interestingly enough while focussing on everything around me I didn’t hear the sound of typing on my computer, so technically, I left one sound out of being in the moment.  🙂

I encourage you to practice this skill as often as you can to help you build your muscles.  Literally, take a minute or 10 to fit this exercise into your day and begin to create the time you need to do the things you want.  I promise you will feel timeless joy from this exercise.  Being in the moment is one element of managing time, the other elements are: clear intentions (knowing what you want), permission (giving yourself permission to experience) and discipline to name a few.  I will talk about each of these in future posts and show you how you can create time to have what you want in your life.

PTBS logo 500 pixalsTo live your life as you choose and to have the time to enjoy it is my wish for you.  If you have an experience you would like to share or you would like to hear more, please feel free to contact me using the contact form below.  I personally respond to all requests.

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A New Conversation For Job Seekers


Seven Effective Steps To Landing the Job of Your Dreams

Imagine a world where people loved what they did for a living and they looked forward to going to work everyday because they felt fulfillment and pride in what they did for their pay checks. Are you one of these people? Or are you one of the many people who are unhappy with their employment and are looking for a better place to work? I invite you to consider a new approach to job seeking to land the job of your dreams so you can be one of these people. Many people love what they do for work everyday and if you are not one of them then I invite you to consider that you are working somewhere that doesn’t work for you.

If you are someone who is working at a job just for the sake of a pay check I invite you to consider the possibility of looking for a job that does work for you. If you are considering my invitation then I invite you to consider taking it on with a whole new approach to job seeking by using these steps. I promise that you will land the job of your dreams if you follow these seven effective steps.

With this new approach I promise that Employers will see you differently and they will want you on their team. This approach is so powerful that jobs have been created where they were not available before just to make room for the person using this approach. I know because I used this approach myself and successfully landed the perfect job based on my needs and conditions. The response I received from the person hiring me was “you were so engaging you didn’t give me any other choice but to hire you”. Imagine someone saying that to you in a job interview! I can tell you it felt wonderful to hear. By using this approach I set myself up to give my best effort, have pride in my work and thoroughly enjoy the job I was hired to do.

A happy employee makes for a happy company as well and when everyone is operating from a good place everyone wins including business owners, fellow workers, customers AND you. Work with these steps in the order provided to be most efficient with your time and to maximize the benefits of your actions. Not only will you be rewarded with the outcome, your new Employer will thank you for being the extraordinary employee they had dreamed of having.

7 Effective Steps for Job Seekers

1. Wish list criteria and personal values – what made the wish list? Begin with creating a written list of everything that is important to you. Divide your page into 3 columns with the headings: Must Haves, Nice to Haves and Personal Values. Don’t worry at this point whether or not it’s reasonable, in fact, be unreasonable with this list. I call it a wish list because it needs to include everything you wish for without restraint.

Have fun with it by adding things that are outrageous, silly even unobtainable, believe me you’ll be surprised by two things in this exercise. First, you’ll be surprised at how much fun you had creating the list, you’ll feel like a child again back when you were free to create anything you wanted. Second, you have no idea what’s possible and everything is possible until someone says no. Creating your list without restrictions opens the door to possibilities you didn’t know existed.

Once your list is complete, read it again and imagine how you would feel if everything on your list was provided in your new job. Notice which items on your list feel more like “must haves” rather than would be “nice to haves”. For those that are really clear to you put a star beside them for future use.

Here are a few examples of my “must haves”, “nice to haves” and “personal values”. Must Haves – Flexible work schedule: 3 or 4 work days per week, Mondays off for family commitments and Thursdays off for Course commitments. Fun with lots of laughs and team spirit. Work with happy people and free to make people happy. Nice to Haves – Weekends off, Mai Tai‘s at the end of the workday, company paid massages 3 times a week, all expense paid trip anywhere in the world, a personal shopping excursion in Harrods in London England (all expense paid by the way) Personal Values – spending time with family and friends, a supportive work environment, fair wages, quality time off.

What would you like on your list? Make it fun and filled with things that mean something to you. My question to you is what’s important?

2. Skills assessment – what have you got already and what’s missing? This is a challenging task to complete, it requires you to appreciate what you already have in your repertoire of skills and if you are like most people you will undervalue your skills thinking they are not up to standard. Two of the most effective ways of uncovering your skill set are: 1. Hire a coach who is trained to ask the right questions, they will draw out your skill set through an inquiry process or 2. ask your friends and family what you do best according to them and believe them when they tell you. Either method will help you see what you already have as a skill or talent.

One other source to help you draw out your skills is to take skill assessment quizzes and tests; you will find many of these on the Internet free for your use. One word of caution with this method, don’t use your personal email address to access the test as you will be inundated with emails requesting further contact. I recommend having a public email address with Hotmail, Yahoo or Gmail so when you are required to submit your email for access you can do so at arms length. This keeps your personal email clear of unwanted emails and still allows you to accept emails for future reading, it’s also respectful to the people who took the time to provide you with the test questions.The list of skills you create will be used in step #3 of the process.

NOTE: you could also create an optional category called “want to haves” and add to that list skills you would like to have that you presently don’t have right now. This list would align with a dream job you may already have in mind and you are currently not doing that job because you don’t have these skills. This list would become part of the overall plan to work towards getting those skills.

3. Business + Skills matchmaking – what fits? So far you have created your wish list of must haves and nice to haves and listed your skills and talents. Now it’s time to create a wish list of companies that you would love to work for, again using the fun approach for the wish list I encourage you to create your list with companies of all sizes from small to huge.

You always wanted to work at Apple or Microsoft? Then add them to your list! What about the little Mom and Pop operation down the street, you know, the place that makes you feel like family every time you shop with them? Think about the businesses you know in your area or outside of your area. Think about where would you like to live if you could live anywhere?

Open yourself up to the possibilities of living and working anywhere in the world! This exercise takes imagination and courage to be free with your thoughts and is best done with a coach or a partner or group setting for inspiration. Create a “working-on-getting-work” group and see what opens up for you! Or work with a coach to bring out your thoughts. Using your skill assessment have a look at the list of businesses or companies you have identified to see which one of them would match your skills and create a working list of businesses to be used in step #4

4. Business Resume’ – who measures up to your standards and values? Now the hard and exciting work begins. Using the working list of businesses that need your skills identify the top 5 or 10 (depending on how long your list is).

NOTE: If you have a list shorter than 5 then I challenge you to dig deeper and lengthen your list to open yourself up to more possibilities and success in finding our dream job. Research the top 5 companies to learn all that you can about them, what’s important to them (their mission statement will give you a clue), look for what they stand for in their community, do you find yourself aligned with them? (refer to your values and what’s important to you) If not, take them off your list. You may have the skills they need and unless you feel connected to them with your values it is highly probable that you will not love your work experience with them and they will become yet another job you are doing without enjoyment.

5.  Interviewing the business – Do they measure up? The process of researching the businesses is to find the one you really want to work for and with. It’s possible you will find more than one and that’s okay too, the point is to become really familiar with the company that holds your future job because at some point they will want you to know who they are and it would be completely unexpected if you already knew a lot about them!

It’s important that the company’s values align with yours, it is the key for your success and vital if you are going to love what you do for work. Before you pick up the phone to make an appointment to see the human resource person within your dream company I invite you to prepare yourself properly for that call. what do you need to be prepared?

You need to be clear about what your intention for the call is, what you are requesting of the person you will be speaking with and very clear of the outcome that you want. For example the intention for the call maybe to find out who is the most appropriate person to speak with regarding employment or it maybe you have the correct person on the phone and your intention is to introduce yourself and set up an appointment to meet in person. You will be requesting the opportunity to meet with the HR manager or Owner of the business depending on the size of company.

Keep in mind you may receive one or both common answers at this point. Either “we are not hiring right now” or “send us your resume” and I encourage you to not let either of these statements stop you from requesting a moment of their time to meet in person.

Dialogue I have used around these are: “I understand that you are not hiring right now and I am requesting a short meeting with you to personally introduce myself and give you a reason to call me first when you are hiring” and “I will definitely be sending you my resume and I am requesting a short meeting with you to personally introduce myself so you see the person behind the words on the page”.

Be really clear that you are requesting a moment of their time and you won’t take no for an answer. For some of you this may seem a bit forward or pushy and I can tell you it’s refreshing to the person you are approaching. They will likely see this as you being determined, intentional and with purpose making your approach memorable and different than the other people applying for work.

This is your first impression and I promise they will notice and remember you when you use this approach. If you have come up against some resistance to meeting in person understand that it likely has something to do with time. I encourage you to keep your meeting short, no longer than 10 min, this way you stand a better chance of having your request granted if you let them know the meeting is very short. Now that you have your interview set with the company you love to work with doing the job you love to do you are ready for the final two steps.

6. Putting it all together – being the extraordinary employee they wished for! Do you know what it means to be an extraordinary employee? It takes commitment to doing your job to the best of your ability then doing it even better, it takes a “being of service” perspective where you do everything you do in the best interest of the company, the customers, your co-workers and yourself. It takes knowledge and understanding of what’s expected of you.

Being extraordinary not only provides your Employer with what they need, it makes you feel powerful with who you are being, you will feel appreciated and valued for who you are and what you do. Imagine how enjoyable your day would be if the company you worked for was full of extraordinary employees like you, it would have an atmosphere of support, encouragement, appreciation, fun, pleasure and camaraderie. It would be a place where you would find yourself saying “I love where I work and what I do for a living”. Who wouldn’t want that?

7. The meeting of the mindful – In the actual interview you want to be really clear about three things:

1. Share with them why you want to work with them.

2. Share with them how you see you are a good fit for them i.e. your skills fit their needs and

3. Let them know that you are truly grateful for the opportunity to share yourself with them and that you are open to taking on other jobs within the company if the one you wanted is not available because this is your dream company, right?

You WANT to work with them in any capacity that also works for them, show them your flexibility! Show them in your interview who you are as a person and why they would be better off with you on their team. I guarantee they will find a way to have you rather than let you go to their competition.

Be bold, be confident, be ready because you are exactly who they are looking for. On a personal note, if you are having trouble with this step don’t try to do it alone. This step can be challenging particularly if you have trouble seeing yourself as confident. If this is the case hire a coach to support you with this or at least talk with your friends and family and allow them to support you on this piece. Your goal is to land the job of your dreams and you need to do everything you can to realize this goal including asking others for support. Just do it!

Final thought: Take an entrepreneurial approach to job seeking and find the job you love – approaching job seeking like it’s your business will help put you in the right frame of mind to be the extraordinary employee Employers wish for. The entrepreneurial approach is to plan your work and work your plan – set up a process within this approach to keep you on track with your goal of finding your dream job. Put yourself in the owners shoes – would you hire you based on what they heard or saw from you so far? It’s in your best interest to be honest with yourself here, if something doesn’t work for you change it before you meet with your future Employer.

This approach will not be easy, it is definitely time consuming and it will require a high level of commitment on your part to see it through. I am certain that you will want give up at some point in the process and go back to the usual way people look for work. I urge you to be a stand for yourself and be committed to having a job you love not only because you are worth it but because loving what you do for work is so rewarding and fulfilling for you. Who wouldn’t want that present in their lives everyday?

Do what you need to do, if you need to find work as soon as possible go out and take any job to bring in a paycheque then focus your attention on using these steps to find your dream job and move on. One last thing, if you are using this approach please remember to thank the person who gave you the temporary job because without them you would not have had the opportunity to approach job seeking in a whole new manner.

My question for you is: Are you ready to go to work loving what you do for a living?  Contact me and get started…

Lisa Johnston-Williams
Personal Lifestyle Coach services are provided by LD Williams. Times/dates/fees are arranged as per client’s needs and agreed upon before coaching services begin. LD Williams has been providing advice and coaching services for over 20 yrs to men and women across North America. Her services are non-medical in nature and based on her personal life experiences.
 

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