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Hello From Within


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Messages from the inside-out

Coincidence? Synchronicity? Divine Intervention? Or something else completely different? When I see a sign that resonates with me, I believe something else is at play here. The more I see, hear, and feel these signs, the more I feel connected to a long-forgotten way of being that gives me peace within my heart. When I look deeper into the experience of seeing signs, I am excited by what I’m learning about communication with others who have passed on, with others who are still present and the possibility of communicating with others in the future. I am talking about the people, past, present and future, who have touched my heart throughout my life.

It begins with the understanding that all living things are made up of energy, and energy is infinite. Therefore, the very essence of everything living is always present and forever in our energy field. Imagine the scope of this. For me, it evokes images of the Matrix, where everything is shown as binary code swirling like dust in a tornado and interwoven like the cloth of fine tapestry—I am in awe of life in its entirety. There are cultures around the world that see, hear, and feel the connections we have with all living things, and for those of us who have forgotten this part of ourselves, these cultures are our source of remembering.

As I awaken to the possibility of being connected as one with all, I am rewarded with the gift of seeing, hearing, and feeling the signs of my loved ones who have passed on. In my heart, I now know that they are always with me and that I can live my life without the pain of losing them physically. When I open myself up to the possibility of experiencing them differently, I am no longer mourning their death but enjoying their presence in a way that fills my heart with connectedness.

What some people see as coincidence or synchronicity, I see as messages from others who are thinking of me, including those on the other side of the veil. The divine intervention that others speak about is the result of my direct connection with my Higher Self, my ancestors, my loved ones no longer physically living on Earth, as well as my Guides, angels and spirits here to support me in the world. All I have to do is listen with my heart and keep my mind out of the conversation.

This is easier said than done when we are taught to dismiss anything we do not fully understand. Since the beginning of time, as human beings, we have evolved from being heart-centered to mind-centered, and this has brought massive chaos to our world. It’s time to go back to being heart-centred, to reconnect with all living beings as one. Many cultures around the world that still live by the ancient teachings understand this and are now being seen as our greatest teachers for bringing back this gift that is within us all. What does this have to do with the topic at hand? In my opinion, it is the source of seeing, hearing, and feeling our loved ones in a way that has eluded many of us for centuries. Are you ready to connect with your loved ones in a whole new way? Open your heart to the possibility and let go of the pain of loss forever.

See The Signs

They are everywhere! Anytime you think about your loved ones, they are there in the form of a memory. The same goes for when you see something that you identify with them, like a dragonfly, a butterfly, an eagle, a white feather, or a special saying, poem, or song. In our time of existence, we are so lucky to have the ability to preserve their likeness with photographs, and we can look at those photographs for years, bringing happiness to our hearts when we look at the people in the pictures. We see them in ourselves and our families, as their DNA lives within them as well. Seeing beyond the physical is the key to seeing them anytime that we want. Remembering the good times and sharing fun stories helps to elevate the feeling of missing their physical presence. Knowing that they are always with you brings a sense of peace to your heart.

Feel The Signs

They are all around us! That touch on your shoulder or the feeling like someone is watching you when no one is there and the warmth in your heart when you are thinking of someone are all connections from beyond your present vision. Just like the wind that you can’t see without dust, you know it exists and accept that without question because you can see evidence of it—you can hear it and you can feel it upon your skin. It is the same with energy. We can’t see it without aids and we know it exists. Remember when I said that all living beings are made of energy? When you are open to the possibility that there are other ways to feel, you become aware of everything around you, including those who are no longer part of our physical world.

Hear The Signs

For me, this has been the most challenging and rewarding sign of all. For me, this has brought the most peace to my heart. I hear my mother’s voice in my thoughts, sometimes in my dreams and often during my day at random times. Sometimes I hear her expressing her love or her concern for my safety (once a mom, always a mom). I hear my brother’s laugh when I think of him and it makes me smile— I know it is him because he has a very distinctive laugh like no one else I know. I hear the voices of so many people that are no longer here on Earth physically when I think of them, and this is the sign that confirms, for me, that they are still within my heart. Some are more vocal than others, and sometimes I address them out loud so they can feel my vibration too. Choosing to learn, practice and embrace this way of connecting with those who are gone from this Earth has brought peace to my heart and allows me to live free of the pain of loss.

“You are never without when they are always within”

 

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What’s peace of mind worth to you?


IT’S COMING!

Tax time happens like clockwork every year and if you find your stress levels rising around tax season, this post is for you.  This is not my usual conversation and I am sharing this with you because I found a stress busting process that works and I’m confident that it will for you too.

Have you ever had any of these thoughts?

  • Damn it! I can’t find the receipt I’m looking for, where in the hell did I put it?

  • It’s tax time again and I’m not ready!

  • Paperwork is so overwhelming! Where do I begin?

  • I hate paperwork, it’s such an energy drain and I don’t have time for it!

I have too and I found my efforts to be organized and prepared for tax season frustrating, energy sucking and hopelessly unchangeable. Every year I would promise myself that I would be more organized and ready for tax time and every year end I would have the same experience. What was that experience? I was stressed, angry, overwhelmed and late to file… again.  My accounting fees were as high as my stress level and I needed a solution, not only financially but mentally and physically as well.  I dreaded tax time and I knew there must be a better way to manage my time, money and peace of mind.

I am a typical Entrepreneur, I work, I buy stuff and I file my receipts in a number of piles throughout my home with the intention of being better organized by the end of the year. I have tried many products, programs and “promised results” advise over the years and none of them have been successful in changing my way of being with the dreaded paperwork associated with being in business. No matter how organized I thought I was, I still couldn’t find the receipt I searched for!  At the end of the year I scrambled to put my paperwork together so I could hand it off to my Accountant to file my income tax and I would still find stray receipts that were missed! It felt like nothing worked. I needed to find a way to simplify the process. I needed something so simple that even I would use it.

Five years ago I started using a simple receipt organizing system and I’m excited by the results.  I find myself making financially sound decisions faster in my business because I’m staying up to date with my expenditures throughout the year rather than at the end. For the past four tax season I didn’t go into stress mode because I was already organized and ready. I reduced my accounting fees because my Accountant’s time was spent working with totals rather than organizing my receipts.  The bonus for me was this system didn’t require a lot effort and it is proving to be very effective.  The amount of stress and frustration this system has relieved is priceless!

As a result of using this ROF system (Receipts On File) I am finding receipts when I need them because they are exactly where they should be, I was able to submit the files to my Accountant earlier than last year and I reduced my accounting fees because everything was sorted and organized, ready for processing .  The best end result?  I was able to do this with very little effort and enjoy the rewards of a job well done.  For the first time in my life as an Entrepreneur, I wasn’t stressed.  My paperwork was complete, ready and on time and I had time to enjoy the moment.

Typical questions I get asked when I mention this system to others:

What is this ROF System?  

It consists of a travel file folder, a banker’s box with twelve file folders labeled by the month and my once-a-month organizing service.  That’s it.  Simple, easy to use and completely stress free for you.

How does this ROF System work? 

All you have to do is put your receipts into the travel folder that I provide, and I do the rest.  Once a month I will pick up the travel folder, organize your receipts into categories (customized to your business needs), in chronological order and file them into monthly file holders.  These files are returned to you monthly so you have access to your receipts as needed. Included in this service is  a summary sheet of your expenditures for the month so you have a running total of where your money has been spent for the month.  By the end of the year your receipts will be organized by month/category/chronological date so by tax time, your files are ready for your Accountant to file your income tax quickly and efficiently.  Sounds great doesn’t it?

Is this ROF system right for me?

This ROF system is designed for Entrepreneurs like you, who want to be informed but do not require day to day details. Entrepreneurs like you, who typically throw receipts into a box or a drawer to be sorted and organized at tax time and for Entrepreneurs like you, who inevitably find themselves stressed out around tax time because they are not ready and they don’t have time to organize their paperwork. If you are an Entrepreneur like me this system is for you. If you would like more information regarding this service, including fees & availability, please use the contact form below.  I typically respond within 24hrs. 

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Giant Leaps From Little Steps


I have been known to say “knowing doesn’t make a difference” when talking about what to do when making changes in my life.  For example, I would say “I want to lose weight”, I know there are countless ways to lose weight and I’m not using any of them!  It feels like every day that someone is sharing their weight loss method that worked for them and if I used it I would lose weight too!  Yes, I believe this is true and knowing doesn’t make a difference!

I could lose weight (I don’t have any medical reasons why I can’t) and I choose not too.  Why? Because there is something else at play here that lives deep within my sub-conscious that stops me and until I find it nothing will work. Anytime I feel blocked or held back in my life the culprit is a limiting belief I hold in my sub-conscious mind.

When you consider that we have thousands of thoughts coursing through our brains every minute and the challenging part is we are unaware of most of them. Is it possible that there are limiting beliefs among those thoughts that are mucking up our lives?  As I read the “The Biology of Belief” by Dr. Bruce Lipton I have learned more about the existence of these beliefs and how they influence my actions and inactions.

Knowing this DOES make a difference!

Eureka, I have found a piece of life’s puzzle that was missing!  Now I have what I need to change the list of beliefs I have been listening to most of my life, rewriting them in a way that empowers me.  Is it possible to change the words in my belief statements and create new believable belief statements?  Could it be this simple?  The answer is YES and it’s highly effective when you go through the steps I am sharing here.

It starts with identifying the hidden belief statements by looking at your feelings and actions in a specific situation.  For example, when I looked at my current financial situation I focussed on how I felt about it, how I viewed money, how I saw other people with money, how I handled money, etc.  What emerged were very loud, very negative thoughts and feelings I had about money. Up till now, I wasn’t aware of most of those thoughts and feelings and for the few, I was aware of, I didn’t see them as controlling my life!  This was a total eye-opener for me!

What is so cool is, I use this process in all areas of my life where I have felt stuck, stopped, and out of ways to change.

Here is the step by step process I went through:

  1. I identified the limiting belief as I believed it to be (the negative statement I heard in my mind)
  2. I reworded the old belief statement into a positive one using the following criteria: state in the first person (I), use present tense (now, not future), using positive language and keeping it short and finally, make it emotionally meaningful to me (resonating)
  3. I effectively use these statements in meditation, emotional freedom technique and written form to remind myself that they are my truth.

It sounds simple, doesn’t it?  I can assure you it wasn’t and each time I go through this process I can honestly say it is so worth the discomfort of converting old into new! When I was writing my original belief statements I was taken back as the words I wrote would cause tears to well up in my eyes. The feelings were so raw and right there! I was literally writing and crying at the same time and struggling through the process. I had a flashback of specific moments in my life that were painful and confirmed why I believed these statements.  I have to say I learn a few valuable lessons while going through this experience 1. the pain of living with these statements far outweighed the pain I was feeling at the moment and 2. I didn’t die going through this exercise.

I was challenged to reword these belief statements using the criteria.  I found myself using words like I wish, I want, I will, none of which are present tense.  I also found my statements were too long and when I read them, they sounded good but I wasn’t really connected to them.  What’s really amazing to me is the completeness of all the work I went through in this process. Now, I can look at these statements and I no longer have any feelings about them.  I have come back to this post on many occasions to test the process and when I read these statements it’s like they didn’t mean anything to me.  I am so grateful for the tools I have learned and as new limiting beliefs expose themselves to me I put myself through this exercise with them too.

Here is a list of limiting beliefs I identified for myself, as you read this you may find yourself resonating with these particular beliefs too.  Feel free to use them if you do.

  • Original belief: I believe that when I ask for help no-one will be there for me
  • New belief: I feel love and support from others like a warm blanket on a cold day
  • Original belief: I believe that no matter what I do things will never change for me
  • New belief: Every step I take changes my view of life
  • Original belief: I believe that happiness is possible I just don’t know what will make me happy
  • New belief: I recognize happy moments in my life every day, both big and small
  • Old belief: I believe, despite multiple attempts to change it,  I am not where I want to be and I will never get there
  • New belief: I am exactly where I need to be and anywhere I want to go is reachable from here

When I read these words a smile has replaced the tears and the peacefulness I feel inside confirms the transformation for me. It takes little steps to transform your limiting beliefs and the promise of giant leaps is real. Yes, it does work and it can work for you too when you are ready. If you need help formulating your statements, feel free to contact me for help.

What limiting beliefs hold you back in your life?

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What Was I Thinking???


 

“You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe.” 

– Oprah Winfrey –

Your subconscious mind accepts as truth, the statements you tell yourself, it doesn’t care whether those statements are negative or positive.  

So why would you choose to continually tell yourself that you are not good enough?  Not smart enough? Not pretty enough? Or that you don’t deserve to be happy? How often do you hear any of these statements in your head? More than once is too often and it’s time to change this.  Statements like: “I’m so stupid, I’m not worthy, nobody loves me, I can’t do this” are some of the more damaging ones and there are more!   Anyone of these statements can stop you from having what you want in your life and the good news is you don’t have to listen to them anymore!  First of all, none of the statements above are true.

I can hear some of you saying “they are for me” and to that, I say again, NONE OF THESE STATEMENTS ARE TRUE for anyone.

These words are a perspective, yours or someone else’s, that repeat themselves over and over in your subconscious mind, making you feel like these words are the truth.  These negative statements are bogus and they were added to your life-living program that resides in your subconscious mind. At some point in your life or before (another conversation), these programmed statements, and many others, were saved in your subconscious mind’s file system causing you to operate in life as if they are true.  In other words, these are limiting belief statements embedded in your subconscious mind and they are limiting your life potential. Here’s the thing, you don’t have to live with these words anymore and you can reform these statements from negative into positive ones and change the outcome of your life.  Not only have other people done this successfully for themselves, but more people, like you, are also discovering that they can too.

Consider the alternative statements “I am good at what I do”, “I have all the knowledge I need” “I am beautiful, inside and out”, “I am worthy of the best that love and life have to offer” These statements are true for people who believe these words, whole-heartedly.  They are the people who appear to be insanely happy all the time!  You know ‘those’ people, the ones who appear to be over the top happy, living life to it’s fullest, always wearing a perma-grin on their lips.  I used to think “they can’t be that happy all the time”!  Well, a matter a fact, yes they can and you can be as well, if that’s your goal!  The fact is our natural way of being, as a human, is to be happy, content, joyful, grateful, compassionate, caring, social, nurturing, happy, happy, happy! It’s time to be the human being you were born to be!

So, why are we so unhappy?

Our thoughts are the main reason and they are the result of what we believe about our thoughts.  What we believe about ourselves, our life, and the world we live in.  Every thought we have, also known as opinions and perspectives, is formed by our beliefs, both positive and negative.  What we accept as the truth, either self-proclaimed or told to us by others, and how we choose to define our very existence. It may surprise you to know that we actually live in a world of anything is possible, nothing is real and all you have to do is choose how you want your human experience to be.  Is that really possible?  ABSOLUTELY!  Is it easy? ABSOLUTELY NOT!

If you are not living the life that you want and you are ready to change this, then you are in the right place right now and it’s time to get to work!  As a life-living strategist, I am here to work through this with you, to help you take back your personal power and to help you create your life, by your definition, of “happy ever after”.

Let’s try a little experiment here to find out what you actually believe. I’d like you to read the quote below.

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” ― Oprah Winfrey

What did that little voice in your head say when you read it?  Did you hear “that’s not true” or “I agree with this statement”? Or did anything else pop into your thoughts about it?  Write down what you heard so we can refer back to it later.

Now take a look at this image, what do you see?

Do you see the beauty of nature or an emptiness?  Did it stir emotion within you of excitement? Loneliness? Calm? Peacefulness? or nothing at all?  Record your thoughts and emotions as they appear to you.

Your initial thoughts and feelings are clues to what you truly believe on a subconscious level and these thoughts and feelings may or may not be in alignment with what you consciously believe.  If this is the case, this is where we begin to look for the limiting beliefs that are stopping you from living your life as it was meant to be lived.  The first step to removing a limiting belief is to discover it’s existence, then, to create a new (positive) statement that is meaningful for you. We download it into your sub-conscious replacing the negative one that has stopped you in the past.  There are a few techniques you can use to do this successfully and effectively and choosing the modality that works for you is the key.  Over the years I have tried many and I’ve found value is each of them at different times of my life.

If any of this resonates with you and you would like to learn more about this subject or how you can work with me, please use the contact form provided below.

Happiness is: living my life as it was meant to be lived and by my design!

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Time to Take Out the Trash


Look familiar?
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Trash talk happens.  When it does, do you listen or put it in its place?

Are you aware of your “trash talk?”  Not sure?  I can tell you it comes from that little voice in your head that just said “what is she talking about? and I don’t hear voices in my head!”  Yes, that little voice.  If you have spent any time listening to that voice chances are you have heard a lot of trash talk.  You are not alone in this experience and it’s an epidemic in our society.  It is safe to say the source of our insecurities, lack of confidence and diminished view of self-worth is fuelled by trash talk and it’s time to take out the trash for good!

There is an imaginary muscle in our thoughts that, when exercised, can toss the trash when you use it, of course, and like any muscle regular exercise is needed.  Staying toned is vital to keeping the trash at a manageable level and in check at all times.  Two things that are important to understand, 1. you will never rid yourself of trash talk completely and 2. you CAN keep it at a minimum so it’s not running your life.

When it comes to any new exercise regime it’s vital to take note of where you are right now and to have a goal in mind that you are reaching for.  What happens between those two points requires consistent practice through focus, commitment, and disciplined determination.  I have a quote that I use as a tagline in my emails that says:

“discipline is simply choosing between what I want right now and what I want most”

I read it every time I send an email as a reminder of what I want most in my life.  What quote are you using to remind yourself of what’s important to you?  Find a quote that resonates with you and use it!

Now that you are aware of your trash talk, what kind of things are you hearing?  Do you catch yourself agreeing with your little voice?  Are you as horrible as your little voice says?  What we say to ourselves is horrendous and what’s really amazing is we would never allow others to say these things to us so why do we allow ourselves?  Think about it?  If someone told you that you were a loser, you will never amount to anything in your life, you are not good enough or pretty enough or you certainly don’t deserve to be happy.  You would likely give them a full fisted sandwich in the kisser!  So why do we listen to the little voice?

There was a time in our history, billions of years ago that little voice came in handy, it was the voice of reason when human beings roamed the earth in search of food and shelter.  It was every man (woman) for themselves and definitely, an animal eats animal world out there.  Wait a minute!  It sounds like nothing has changed in a billion years!!!  Our little voice is a vital part of our survival in this world and unfortunately, it doesn’t know when to shut up and keep its opinions to itself. Kidding aside that little voice has saved your life at some point and for that, you can be grateful.  The downside of having our little voice in our heads is when it goes into a negative mode and constantly bombards you with thoughts that are hurtful and damaging under the disguise of trying to keep you safe. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always pick the right things to keep you safe from and this is where you need to take charge.

Most people think that life happens to them, what they don’t realize is that we are capable of creating our lives.  Not only capable but responsible!  What is so magical at this point is when we take responsibility for the creation of our lives we also gain the power to create life any way that we want.

What do you want?

Do you have any idea of what you truly want in your life?  Most of us say “yes” but stop and think about the question and most of you will be completely blank.  I know because I have gone through this exercise myself and I go through it with my clients. I still haven’t met anyone who could clearly answer the question.  Why not?  Well, it all comes back to that pesky little voice and the trash it’s been sharing with us over the years.  Nasty!

The bottom line is, manage the little voice, have it work for you rather than against you and you can have whatever your little heart desires.

Yes, you can have it all

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Vanilla ~ Chocolate ~ Choose!


“A great maturity opens in the human psyche when we accept that we can control

our impulses by conditioning our thoughts, and that we alone are responsible

for our emotions and reactions in life.”

Brendon Burchard ~ The Motivation Manifesto


Accepting Responsibility

 A light bulb moment happened for me in early 2013 when I came to the realization that I was 100% responsible for how my life.  Past. Present and Future  Wow!  The impact of that thought sent me into a dizzy spin as I recollected years of upset, suffering, heartaches, and disappointments I had experienced.

Accepting responsibility for my way of being during those times of chaos and upset was not an easy task and at the same time was very enlightening for me.  In fact, I would say truly liberating as well!  I realized that being responsible for my way of being also meant that I was in a position to choose how I wanted to experience life from that moment on.

I had the pleasure of getting this realization through a funny exercise called “Vanilla ~ Chocolate ~ Choose.  I observed the course leader (I was in a self-discovery course) working with a volunteer from the crowd on the subject of choosing vs. decision and it went something like this:

Course Leader: “I want you to choose an ice cream flavor, either vanilla or chocolate and tell me why you chose it”.

Volunteer: “I choose vanilla because it’s my favorite flavor”.

Course Leader:  “Got it, and that was a decision you made based on a reason, therefore, it was not a choice but a decision”.  “Let’s try that again”. “Vanilla or Chocolate, choose”

Volunteer: “I choose vanilla because I don’t like chocolate”

Course Leader: “Got it, and that too was a decision you made based on a reason is not a choice but a decision”. “Let’s try that again.” Vanilla or Chocolate, choose.”

Volunteer: “I choose vanilla.”

Course Leader: “Why did you choose vanilla?”

Volunteer: “Because vanilla tastes better!”

The volunteer was getting quite upset with this conversation, in her mind, she WAS choosing vanilla but apparently, she was making decisions, not a choice according to the Course Leader.  She was thinking she was never going to get it right. The Course Leader assured her that she was so close to getting it and encouraged her to try again.

Course Leader: “Vanilla ~ Chocolate ~ Choose”

Volunteer: “I choose Vanilla.”

Course Leader: “Why did you choose Vanilla?”

The exasperated volunteer said: “Because I choose vanilla!!!”

Course Leader: “Yes!  Now that is a choice!

It’s subtle and significant at the same time, the difference is, a decision is made based on and because of your reasons and a choice is made after considerating your reasons. Can you see the difference?  If not keep looking, this will make sense I promise!

What difference does this make in our lives?  When we use reasons to justify our actions we are not committed to our decisions because those reasons can change (it happens a lot), we are left questioning our decisions and feeling lost.  When we take our reasons into consideration then we are free to make our choice and be committed to something that becomes everything.  For example, the athlete that trains tirelessly for hours, days, months and years does so because they are committed to mastering a skill and achieving a level of excellence important to them.  If it was a decision to exercise they would likely quit after the first experience of body fatigue.  As a choice, they push through the difficulties no matter what.

One does not decide to be a performing artist ~ one is a performing artist.

One does not decide to be happy ~ one is happy.

Choice ~ Choose

There is a significant difference between decision and choice.  What is the relevance of this to being responsible for your life experiences?  Choosing to acknowledge and being responsible for what you have in life is your freedom to choose how you deal with things no matter what comes your way.  Acknowledging is not the same as being resigned to and this is where most people get stuck.  Do you choose to have cancer?  No, you choose to acknowledge that you have cancer and live your life dealing with it powerfully and purposefully. What that looks like for you is your choice.

Can you identify in your life where you have decided rather than chosen?  It’s can be challenging to see the difference between the two and I invite you to join me in this conversation on Facebook.  I have started a private group page to allow conversations like this to happen within a safe environment.  If you would like to join us please use the contact form below to send me your request or go on Facebook ask to join C3Now and choose to be in the conversation!

Imagine what your life would look like if you lived it by choice? Think about it.