Finding Your Path – 90 min session @ $147
What is forgiveness and why is it so important?
Studies have shown that holding onto grudges and resentment can have a significant impact on our mental and physical health. The stress caused by being unable to forgive can lead to increased anxiety, depression, and even cardiovascular issues, on top of that, I discovered that knowing this makes no difference until I was ready to take action.
Forgiveness is a powerful force that can transform our lives and relationships, yet it remains one of the most challenging aspects of the human experience. We are told that forgiveness is a simple matter of letting go of our anger and move on, as if the wounds of the past can be erased with a simple decision. Forgive and forget! Nope, that definitely didn’t work, in fact it made matters worse, now I was also angry at myself for letting those people get to me on top of what they did!
As someone who struggled with forgiveness for many of my younger years, I’ve spent most of my older years searching for solutions of this complex topic. Through my explorations, I’ve discovered that the struggle to forgive is a universal one, affecting people from all walks of life and situations. For me, whether it was my parents who failed to provide the love and support I needed as a child, a boyfriend who betrayed my trust in a relationship, or a friend who let me down in a quick second of need, the pain of these experiences lingered for years. Despite my attempts to “fix” this within myself I just couldn’t change the outcome. The result was my world got smaller and smaller because there were more and more people I couldn’t forgive for their actions. It felt like doors around me were closing in to the point I couldn’t enjoy being with people I wanted to be with because someone I didn’t want to see would be there.
True forgiveness is a journey that can be both challenging and rewarding, and one that is essential for our mental and emotional well-being. In my experience, I’ve discovered several key insights that challenge the conventional wisdom around forgiveness.
Forgiveness Insights – what it is and what it is not!
- It is about releasing the hold that pain has on our lives and finding a way to move forward. Forgiveness is not about condoning or excusing hurtful behaviour.
- It does takes courage to face our pain and choose a path of healing. Forgiveness is not saying I’m sorry and all is forgiven.
- It is a demonstration of strength and resilience. Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness.
- It is common to experience setbacks along the way, and we all go through the process at our own pace. Forgiveness is not a linear process or on a timeline.
- It is about reclaiming our personal power, and refusing to let the actions of others define us. Forgiveness when it’s done right, has nothing to do with others.
- It is about becoming un-messable when we see someone who used to trigger us. Without the emotional trigger there is no longer any upset to endure.
- It begins with there is nothing to “fix”, there is just what’s so! Forgiveness doesn’t mean you won’t be hurt by people’s actions again as you can’t control what others do, but you can manage how you respond to their wrong doings and that’s empowering!
These insights have been born out of personal experience, and they form the foundation of the approach I now teach people who are ready to let go of their pain and suffering. Whether you are struggling to forgive a parent, a loved one, a friend or yourself, you’ll be getting the guidance & support you need to begin your journey towards healing and inner peace. For those of you seeking to “fix” your own suffering, through a combination of practical tools & techniques, I am here to teach the steps for true forgiveness. Once learned you will never be stopped by other people’s actions again. Not to say you won’t experience other people’s wrong doings, just that they will no longer stick in your psyche.
People would ask me, “how did I know that I was ready?” After much thought I recognized the indications for me came in a variety of ways. Signs, like noticing how my pain stopped me from doing things I wanted to do and seeing the people that I wanted to see. I noticed the gaps between my tormenting thoughts and moments of peace and I wanted more of the latter. I started giving myself permission to set aside the wrong doings for brief moments and better memories started to appear. This painful/peaceful cycle would repeat over and over until I started using these steps myself. I don’t know what your “knowing” will be or when it will arrive and I trust that you will when you are ready.
I practiced, using the tools I’ve collected over the years, to work through difficulties I had with forgiving others. Particularly when I feel loss of any kind, including loved ones, relationships, being let go from jobs, during times of strife, when I’ve felt stressed due to finances, and even aging. . The keys for healing a broken heart are love & forgiveness and access to these keys is a doable 3 step process. I am here to teach you these 3 steps so you can finally have peace within your own mind and experience a freedom you didn’t know was possible.
When you are ready to let go of self-damaging habits and you want to master self-forgiveness for yourself, reach out and allow me to guide you through the process for your own peace of mind and life-changing freedom from the pain and suffering that has stopped you from truly experiencing the beauty of life.
This is an introduction course where I will provide you with the tools to practice the art of forgiveness and it begins with a willingness to explore the good, the bad and the unmentionable thoughts that cause pain and suffering within.
To begin this session, book an appointment to start this journey and review the client agreement prior to our session. The information shared on the form is an important part of our initial conversation. As always your information is confidential and only used during our time together.
This forgiveness session includes:
- Introduction to the three steps of forgiveness
- Experience a simple forgiveness exercise using a real life example, with support to help guide you through the 3 steps
- Condensed pdf version of the Workbook “True Confessions” a journal of forgiveness with 3 practice pages
- One 30 min follow up session to check in with your progress and provide support as needed
Disclaimer statement:
Throughout this process expect to have breakdowns and breakthroughs, and unexpected feelings/memories may appear in our session. Just know that what ever shows up we will deal with together in a safe manner. If you have questions about the material and need additional help, please feel free to put them in writing anytime and I will do my best to answer.
If you are dealing trauma or chronic pain, I encourage you to integrate these sessions into your medical regime. These sessions are not meant to replace medical/psychological services but to support your self-care program as a part of your healing team. It is important that you let your Doctor know about our sessions. When you are ready, fill out the inquiry form to sign up for the next course intake or to message me if you have questions.
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies” Nelson Mandela
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